[ SECRET POST #4898 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4898 ⌋

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[far cry 5]


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[kimetsu no yaiba (demon slayer)]


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Comments

Re: How do you feel about people being sad about "missed milestones" when there's a tragedy?

[(Anonymous)]

I mean... people say things based on a certain frame of reference, I guess? Lots of people grow up and get married. Not everyone, but many do. People who make these comments are not necessarily locking someone into a future they perceived that person to have, they're mourning the choice that was taken away. Of course, they're mourning the tragedy too, but they're also recognizing that some possibilities are now gone, and so abruptly. Maybe those girls did want to get married, maybe they didn't. Point is, if they wanted to, now Dad isn't around to walk them down the aisle (again, IF they chose to have him do so). And that might be painful on a wedding day.

But you're right, the boy will also grow up without a father, and that's just as tragic.

Thanks for clarifying that bit about your thread yesterday. This makes more sense. I can see how it would be annoying, but I don't think it's malicious, just a bit outdated.

Re: How do you feel about people being sad about "missed milestones" when there's a tragedy?

[(Anonymous)]

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Yeah, I'm trying to look at it from their point of view and realize that they're probably well-intentioned, they're just coming at it from their own perspective and not really thinking about the fact that other people might want different things, and not be too bothered by it.

I think part of me was expecting him to be more, IDK, "enlightened" for lack of a better word, because growing up gay in our conservative area, he got tons of crap from those same people because he wasn't following the way things "should" be, either (which, according to them, was dating and eventually marrying someone of the opposite sex) and now he's repeating the same things they are, which bothered me because I guess I expected him to know better if that makes any sense. I don't know.

Re: How do you feel about people being sad about "missed milestones" when there's a tragedy?

[(Anonymous)]

Who knows. If he did grow up in a conservative area, maybe all the women in his family wanted to be married so he was just going off of that, not thinking that not every girl will grow up to be a bride? Idk. People have blind spots, even the ones you would think are more progressive. (I've known several black folks in America who think homosexuality is an abomination, and will never budge from that position.)

Anyway, during a tragedy, I'd probably just let a comment like that slide. But if he keeps repeating it later on, you're entirely welcome to say that not all girls want to be married, and even the ones that do don't necessarily want their daddy walking them down the aisle. Not that it's up to you to educate him... it's just an option.