[ SECRET POST #4901 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4901 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Venting/Advice Thread

[(Anonymous)]

What you've described is the basis of my confusion. Part of me knows I'm not a woman. Like, I just... don't feel like I am. And that's very much detached from my gender expression, even though that's very neutral too. Another part of me says I'm doing women a disservice by overthinking it this much, that women are amazingly diverse and there really is no "box" that says "this is a woman."

But I don't think I am one. I don't know. I can't explain the feeling. The best way I can think to make an analogue of it is like... imagine a person of some part Chinese heritage, whose family has lived in the West for three or more generations, maybe even marrying into non-Chinese families and having mixed children, who maybe then marry into other non-Chinese families and so on. Imagine that this family has near-100% assimilated into Western society, and they don't bother much with Chinese tradition. That person in question-- they know they're part Chinese. There is a part of them that is and there's a history there, but it's not lived history. They don't know the language, they don't know the traditions. They don't feel in any way connected it. Maybe they don't even look Chinese at all. It feels wrong for them to call themselves Chinese.

It's a crude comparison, but that's kind of how my relationship to the idea of womanhood is.

Re: Venting/Advice Thread

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

Sometimes I would have notions that my actions/likes/dislikes were reasons I didn't identify as a woman. Then a woman would come along and say "But I do/like/dislike that same thing, and I'm a woman." You might think that would cause me to question my nb identity, but actually (eventually anyway) it helped. I finally realized it's not about what you do/like/dislike. It's about something different.