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Would you date someone that the majority of people found unattractive or funny looking or too plain?

Well my longest-standing fictional crush is the Phantom of the Opera, so maybe?

As far as RL goes I hate to say "no fatties," but I'm fat and hate it about myself, along with hairy, so as long as the person wasn't fat or had a pelt (I kill disposable razors), and made reasonable efforts at hygiene and wasn't an asshole, (so not the Phantom, heh) I guess?

I don't really date, but if I did, I'd probably not be expecting to date movie stars, since I'm no prize myself.

Do I agree with those people or are they attractive to me? I'm not shallow enough to care about their opinions, but I'm also not running a charity here. I only date people I'm actually into.

OP.
Can you find those types of people attractive? Have you ever actually been into someone that everyone thinks is too plain, or unattractive, or funny-looking?
I guess you look better than these types of people described, so you can make that "charity" wisecrack w/o remorse?...

ayrt
this turned into an essay. idk

Lmao. Called out! Yes I am considered attractive by other people (I'd say average looking but the word attractive is the one they use so?), and the charity comment reflects that if I turn a guy down, people will call me shallow and tell me I need to give that person a chance because they're nice, funny, etc. I learned my lesson on that one because it's just awkward for everyone when you try to date someone you're not excited about. You know if there's a spark, you know?

I will say I don't have a type. I don't only like men of a certain height, body type, look, whatever. And yes, people also feel the need to share their opinions on how ugly, fat, weird, short, etc. the people I do like are. Literally every guy I've liked, including some that are widely considered attractive. People will still do this shit.

Example: Last guy I liked, I was interested because he's funny, charming, and straightforward about what he's after but never pushy. He's in incredibly good shape - I'm neutral on abs personally I do not care, but he looks like a fricking fitness calendar. Everyone else? EWWWW HE HAS RED HAIRRRRRR!!1111
Seriously?

People trip out over the silliest things and I have no idea what other people even consider attractive anymore because everyone I think of as hot is not to them?

I find bad attitudes unattractive. If someone doesn't do basic hygiene things or cheats on people, that is gross. But bald is not gross. It's just bald. Short is just short. They're not negatives they just are? And we're all going to look like saggy testicles in a few more decades anyhow.

It's been a slow day. I am willing to play would or would not if you have famous examples. Haha

If they're attractive to me, it doesn't matter.

Probably. My longest-standing crushes were on a friend of my brother who was a very funny-looking guy (gangly, crooked teeth, long nose) and on my highschool bestie who was cute (imo) but not what anyone would call a classic beauty. Attractive people are attractive, but people who are actually *likeable* and whose company is desirable in the long-run are a much nicer prospect.

If someone is really smart, really nice, and generally has values similar to my own, them being plain isn't a deal-breaker at all.

That said, hygiene and a decent level of physical fitness are pretty important to me. Plain, clean, and moderately fit is a very different thing than plain, dirty, and markedly overweight. The latter would be a deal-breaker for me.

If *I* don't find him unattractive or funny looking or too plain, yes.

That's easy because the people around me mostly have a, "as long as they're happy" attitude to couples. Sure, they might say something like, "I don't know what she sees in him" or, "he could do better" but those are idle one-off comments after being introduced, more baffled than venomous, and no one would be tactless enough to say that to the friend's face. I've never noticed that a friend would lose "status" in their social circle when "dating down". In the end everyone just wants their friends to be happy, and if happiness for them is that person, then so be it.

Echoing the first poster, and the sentiments of the rest -- there needs to be a spark, and if I find them attractive, then...possibly? Most likely. I mean the last guy I went out with was cute to me, but my mother said he was rather plain looking (and not the best looking out of the guys I have previously gone out with) but he was really sweet etc.

So yeah. But as the first poster said, there needs to be something there -- a spark, a connection, something that makes him attractive to me. Similarly to the poster above me, I think my circle of people will only really care if the guy treats me right and I'm happy. That's generally the case with how we treat each other, and welcome the person into the fold. Comments are only ever made in a "yeah, that's definitely your type" or "ooo he's cute!" No one has ever said to my face "please get your eyes checked".

Personality and values over appearance for me.

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