[ SECRET POST #5006 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5006 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Controversial Unpopular Opinions?

[(Anonymous)]

I kind of get why people wouldn't want to use the word "celibate" because whether it's accurate or not, it DOES have a religious connotation. There's always "abstinent", though.

That said, as someone who's actually asexual (as in, I have zero sexual interest in men or women, and don't want to have sex with anyone), I somewhat agree with you. I constantly see people talking about how they love having sex with people, but because they're "not sexually attracted to them" they're still asexual, and that's just...such bullshit to me.

As far as I can tell, being "sexually attracted" to someone MEANS you want to have sex with them. I mean, I know that sometimes people in relationships will have sex with their partners to make the partners happy, and I get that. But I've seen a few different people online even go so far as to say how much they LOVE sex and would not want to be in a relationship without sex, yet still claim to be asexual. I know it's the wrong reaction, but it kind of pisses me off, to be completely honest, because I feel like if "asexual" includes people who love sex and wouldn't want to go without it, then the word's lost all meaning.

Honestly, I just hate the whole "sexual attraction" definition because of this. There's apparently not a concrete definition, and the closest thing I've seen to one directly contradicts the way that some people use the word. I feel like "does not have the desire to have a sexual relationship with anyone" would be a better definition.

Re: Controversial Unpopular Opinions?

[(Anonymous)]

Being sexually attracted to someone does NOT mean you want to have sex with them. It means you feel sexual arousal when you see or think about them. It happens involuntarily. Wanting to have sex with someone is voluntary. Actually choosing to have sex with them is voluntary on another level. But you can feel sexual attraction to someone and not want to have sex with them in any capacity, and that MUST be understood, because linking sexual attraction and wanting sex together is an awful lot like rapists and rape apologists saying the victim wanted it because they were aroused.

Re: Controversial Unpopular Opinions?

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Yes it does though. Consent can be with or without sexual attraction, but asexuality means no sexual attraction at all. You can still have sex. Your body by nature will want, but sexual attraction does not need apply.

+1

[(Anonymous)]

This.
No, like seriously, this.


I am not sexually attracted to anyone. I never have been, never will be. I understand the difference between sex repulsed and not inclined, but overall, and by basic and literal definition- when you are sexually attracted to someone, you are not by every distinctive standard- asexual.
I get that people want to be unique and special snowflakes, but by consistently thrusting themselves into a preference that isn't theirs is just sad to me. Like you can fit every stereotype and still not fall into said category, you can have a low sex drive and still have a sexuality. It's really not that hard. I really wish people didn't simply rely on the inaccurate opinions of Tumblr SJW's as a means to define themselves.

Re: +1

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I'm late replying, but yeah. It's already hard enough to be taken seriously, having people who I guess want to be special (I obviously don't know their motivations, but I'm not sure what other reason they'd have) claim to be asexual when they're obviously not just makes it easier to dimiss those of us who actually are. It's frustrating.