[ SECRET POST #5017 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5017 ⌋

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Comments

[meadowphoenix]

this is the problem when you have academic terms ushered into public consciousness. there are so many concepts of social justice and psychiatry that just don't mean the same thing if you say them in reg company now.

saying some pairs are "co-dependent", romantic or non-romantic, in fanfic is now a pet peeve of mine. at its least specific it means that both people are feeding off a dynamic of bad behavior on one person's part being facilitated by and sometimes simultaneously condemned by the other person, not that people are life or death for each other.

that's just how language happens, but I really don't like it when with something like cultural appropriation, you get people saying food can't be appropriated because they've decided the limits of the phenomenon based on popular understanding (and more importantly confused people on the possible harm. it has been completely separated from its broader observation of culture in toto, which is about more than individuals and is why individual intentions don't matter at all for appropriation to occur and to be harmful.). then sometimes you get cool neologism-like development where blackface was confusing people when describing how white people were doing their make-up in very specific ways so then you get black-fishing, which is more evocative of the phenom.

[(Anonymous)]

oh dude i feel you on the 'co-dependent' peeve, i see that term misused all the time in fandom and often in a way to mean something positive when it's very specifically not meant to be at all. also most of the time when i see it coined for a pair in fandom they're actually... not, because they exist outside of one another. true co-dependency is a literal inability to be separated on any level or space of time, not 'these two love one another a lot'.

[meadowphoenix]

you get me! it's used as synonym for uber-love and not like a life-crippling identity dependancy OR it's like a term for a couple who has like way too many in-jokes that they don't share with anyone else lmao.

[(Anonymous)]

I GET YOU!!

yeah it's like everyone uses the term but completely ignores what it actually means and the horrible, toxic behavior it denotes. instead it's held up as this kind of ideal and treated as romantic when it really is anything but. tbh i wouldn't even consider co-dependency love, it's unhealthy mutual possession more than anything and requires years of extensive therapy to break.

but instead fandom treats it like uwu love.

[(Anonymous)]

I've been to rehab so the way "codependent" gets used in fandom always makes me double-take for a second, haha