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⌈ Secret Post #5020 ⌋

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[Pokemon]

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[jessica kellgren-fozard (youtuber)]

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[Avatar: The Last Airbender]

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[Raised by Wolves]

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[Xenoblade Chronicles 2]

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[Princess Weiyoung]

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[Cookie Run]

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[Kristen Bell and Dax Shepherd]

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Without saying exactly why, you might encourage your sister to stay in touch with your best friend's sister, seeing as how they have a past friendship to build upon. In cases like this, there isn't a whole lot you can do unless she's actively asking for help. One thing, though: she should 100% stop threatening to leave him. The danger zone for abusive men is often just before or just after their wife leaves them. They snap. So she needs to STOP tipping him off as to her real intentions.If she doesn't really mean it, she should still stop saying it. You don't want to trigger off that suicide, or worse, murder-suicide or a physical attack.

She should make an exit plan for herself and her kids that includes removing and safeguarding important documents like birth certificates, social security cards, passports, etc. Put them someplace the husband can't get to, maybe with a trusted friend. Likewise, little by little so as not to attract notice, sneak precious possessions out of the house and leave it with a friend she trusts. Pack a go-bag with a few changes of clothes, toiletries, cash, etc. everything you'd need to bug out for a few days or a week. This can be left with a friend or someplace she can get to quickly after they leave.

FWIW, I've heard good things about Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft. But I'm not sure I advise sending her a copy. You can't be sure her husband won't see it (if he's the type to open her mail, for example) and that could cause problems for her if he does.

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