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Re: What Are Your General Feelings Towards Optimism And Pessimism?
(Anonymous) 2020-10-06 10:20 am (UTC)(link)I've been an optimist since then. Someone above mentioned it might cause burn-out but I don't feel that. To me, optimism isn't about pasting on a smile when I'm dying inside, it a conscious decision to look for the bright side and focus on that. (Then again, I've always been very good at convincing or even lying to myself.) My optimism helps me be happy, motivated and motivating. It pairs well with my pragmatism and my tendency to take on a role of authority.
I tend to find pessimism in other people draining. It's a good thing to bring up worst-case scenarios and voice worries but imo it ought to be in reasonable doses and in a constructive way. "This might happen – so what can we do about it?" If someone keeps harping on how it will all go wrong just to bemoan their fate, I'm going to try to avoid them.
So I guess I think that you should spread your optimism freely but keep your pessimism under tight control? Huh.
Interesting question, thanks for asking! Where is it coming from? What are your feelings?
Re: What Are Your General Feelings Towards Optimism And Pessimism?
(Anonymous) 2020-10-06 11:12 am (UTC)(link)The obligation to be always optimistic or face social rejection pisses me off no end. But I actually dislike how pessimistic I am. Every time I've tried to change i've ended up with that dying inside feeling. Your comment made me realise maybe i've been going about it in the wrong way. Time to try a new approach.
Re: What Are Your General Feelings Towards Optimism And Pessimism?
(Anonymous) 2020-10-06 12:44 pm (UTC)(link)• Optimism is mostly a matter of practice and fake it till you make it.
• Some things can't be talked up. If you drop your tomato soup so now you don't have a meal but a kitchen to clean – don't try to spin it. It sucks, plain and simple. The trick there is not to get hung up on it. It ruined your meal and an hour of your time, but it doesn't need to ruin your day.
• Performative happiness is telling the story about "We went to x but there was no y so we had to z!" laughing even though you were miserable at the time, but if it makes for a funny story later, you might as well enjoy it as it unfolds – and that's the self-care kind of optimism. If something goes wrong, it's not a perfect plan that has been ruined, it's the start of an adventure. Improvise, be open to alternatives and be excited about what might happen!
I hope you succeed and wish you all the best!!
Re: What Are Your General Feelings Towards Optimism And Pessimism?
(Anonymous) 2020-10-06 06:08 pm (UTC)(link)Thank you (and everyone else) for the response(s). I really appreciate seeing other people's takes on the subject at hand.
As for my feelings, I personally am trying to become more optimistic, greatly valuing it and respecting others that can manage to have a good attitude about life. I suppose I'm looking for a balance - both optimism and pessimism have their places in this world. Not just for me but for my friends and family who need support in these trying times.