[ SECRET POST #5029 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5029 ⌋

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This probably wont help but-

[(Anonymous)]

Every relationship has a ebb and flow to it, everyone is unique and follows its own rhythm.

Assuming I read this correctly, you're talking about a hesitation you feel sharing your experiences with real life friends if only due to the lack of response you get online. Or am I wrong?
I ask because words are contextless when typed. There can only be so much inflection and emphasis through text. There's a chance that your online friends are misinterpreting the context or misunderstood the importance of what you said to them. Anon online interaction is significantly different from physical/knowledgeable online conversations if only because the RL have a physical representative of what they mean.

My advice it to start slow. They want to vent, so they may just want sympathy on their hardships, given you haven't discussed your own problems (or any others) they may see you as a safe and trustworthy confidant to talk to. I would allow them their sanctuary through me, offering what advice I could, but to stay aware of the way they present it to you. The more casual approach (or the relationship that you find most trustworthy) the more likely they hear you out similarly to the way you've done for them and everyone else.

Best way to start is to ask if you can tell them something, and depending on their response and how well you know them, you can gauge who your confidant should be. (though a non significant admission should be on hand for each individual, given to all who failed and decided to trust, just ask your significant questions to those who you believe will give you an honest answer)

Re: This probably wont help but-

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, lack of response has made me feel like maybe people are just going silently "what the fuck" at what I have to say. I live a harder life than what most people experience or are comfortable interacting with, so I'm thinking that maybe the issues are just too much to share. I think I'll be okay if my problems are just too intense to talk about. I was just concerned about if my decision to be closed off about my own self may come off even worse.

Thank you for hearing me out and offering your words of advice. I probably won't discuss my issues with folks, but I am considering what level of a relationship I want with folks. I do want to be close of course, but maybe I can just be supportive without having to give much info about my own bad, hard-to-talk-about situation as well.