[ SECRET POST #5031 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5031 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[dragon age inquisition]


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[MDZS]


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[Judging Amy]


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[over the garden wall comics]


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Comments

Re: What Themes Do You Wish Were More Often Explored In Fiction?

[greghousesgf]

I agree. I'm inclined to blame the "forgive your abusers" bullshit on the religious idea that you are supposed to forgive everyone for everything.

Re: What Themes Do You Wish Were More Often Explored In Fiction?

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

I agree, though I also find that more people do this when they're brought up on strong family values/where their family is their only security net. There tends to be an odd defensiveness towards the abuser in a way where they imagine they were the ones hated by their family with little concern over how unforgivable the act actually was. I've seen and have known a lot of people put family over rationality because they can't fathom or wouldn't be able to deal with this happening to their own.

Re: What Themes Do You Wish Were More Often Explored In Fiction?

[(Anonymous)]

The rationale does seem to be 1) forgiveness is mandatory for being a good person so you must forgive, 2) forgiveness means acting like nothing ever happened and continuing to maintain the relationship you had with this person before, and 3) if you expect anything to change then you haven't really forgiven them and really you are the bad person here.

In reality, forgiveness is consistent with cutting someone out of your life and never speaking to them again, it is consistent with allowing someone to face legal, financial, social, or other consequences and not taking on any responsibility to fix the situation for them, and it is consistent with expecting people to apologize, make amends, and do the work necessary to improve.