They want to be helpless and worried over and need to know for sure'n have like concrete evidence that people care about them or something so they turn themselves into victims and make stuff up to be victimized by even if nothing exists 'cause they're insecure? :D

/random psychobabble stuff

I think in certain instances a healthy dose of like, egoism is good, 'cause if you're all "what you mean my friends don't care, of COURSE they care, how could they not" then... huge load off everybody's backs. *dies*