[ SECRET POST #5049 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5049 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[this was a text secret, I just screencapped it - I'm not one of the pretty secret makers, sorry]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 43 secrets from Secret Submission Post #723.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Non fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I've seen a lot of bloggers and creatives recently talking about parasocial relationships and boundaries and how they are not actually friends with all x-thousand of their followers and it's not cool to come into their inboxes and randomly tell them about your childhood trauma or your mean boss, and it's VERY not cool to send them hate mail because they didn't respond to your PM about your mean boss, and like... I totally get it! That's all fair and reasonable and cool! Assert those boundaries, folks! But at the same time... a lot of these bloggers, not all of them but a lot of them, deliberately build a parasocial relationship with their followers. They're 'casual' and 'honest' and 'real' and say 'how're you guys doing?' and invite people to send in photos of their pets, and I don't get how they're even a little surprised that anyone might mistake that for actual friendship. I wouldn't, but that's because I'm a bitter cynic.

...actually, I think the thing that annoys me about it is how many of the bloggers I'm seeing this from have also asked their followers for money in recent memory. My dude, you have deliberately built this relationship and now you are asking for money so you can make a deposit on a house but you say you don't owe your followers anything? Maybe not, but maybe you should delete your blog.

Re: Non fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I mean, it's 2020, we live in hell and people need to make money. It's absolutely a narrow line between promoting things that encourage parasocial relationships because it's important and necessary for financial reasons on the one hand, and the legitimate problems created by doing so and by people who cross that line on the other hand. And TBH I think a lot of the smarter content-creator-y types are pretty aware that this dynamic exists but it's still hard to escape the trap, it's kind of a Scylla and Charybdis.

Re: Non fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT: I know, and I would NEVER say any of this to any of the bloggers. It's just me getting pissy and whining about other people doing things they're free to do. You know how it goes.