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⌈ Secret Post #5105 ⌋

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[sparklywalls]

I love Caitlin Doughty but hadn't seen that video before, really interesting!

I don't care how much I love a place, I just can't imagine requesting my remains be disposed of in that way. I don't want to be cremated anyway, I think I like the idea of an eco-burial more and going back to nature with a tree planted above me or something.

I know technically your ashes getting vacuumed up by a Disney employee and sent to a landfill is also going back to nature (of sorts) but I just don't think that's nice for your surviving family and friends. I'd rather think of my place of burial having a nice bench for folk to sit on than allowing my remains to take the Haunted Mansion offline, ruining everyone's fun, for an entire day.

[(Anonymous)]

Haha, well Charles Manson's ashes ended up scattered all over the funeral guests when a strong wind took hold of them. (At least according to Caitlyn.)

[sparklywalls]

Ooh nooooo! See, this is why I take my hat off to the determination of people who hire a boat and scattered ashes in the middle of a loch or something. It can be fair windy in many parts of the Highlands! I just have comical visions of your Uncle Pete ending up blown back into the hood of your coat...

[(Anonymous)]

My parents scattered my grandfather's ashes in the Highlands (where he was from) and they had to get back in the car and go all the way down to a bridge and across to the other side of the river to stop this happening!

[(Anonymous)]

I've been part of a ceremony where this happened as well. It was distressing, but I sort of thought my late friend would have had a laugh about it so I took it as a last touch of their sense of humor.

[(Anonymous)]

I think a lot of people are flat out not thinking of the logistics (or legality or expense) when they say things like "Scatter my ashes at X" or whatever. (I also don't think they're always being entirely serious but for lack of a real death plan people choose to take the request seriously because it's all they have to work with.)

It's like when people say "Oh, just throw me in a hole!" Okay, but if you literally want to be buried in a hole, your next of kin are probably going to have to buy a cemetery plot and meet the requirements of the cemetery and whatnot, because for a variety of reasons they probably can't just go dig a hole and dump you wherever. If what you mean is that you don't care what happens to your body and you don't want people going to a lot of trouble or expense, then fine, but maybe actually say that instead of acting like getting put in a hole is no big deal (or like getting tossed out with the trash is a remotely viable option).

[sparklywalls]

You're definitely right anon. I think in certain countries (such as the UK and USA) we're so generally squeamish about death that nobody likes to confront and talk about what they would like to happen to their body. I think it's getting a little better but we're still a way off the acceptance of e.g. the Victorians to the point it was woven into daily life almost.

I'm not suggesting we go all the way back there obviously! But there's got to be a balance between excessively morbid fixation and just virtually ignoring it won't be something your family some day faces. "Toss me in a hole" comes across as a manifestation of not wanting to talk about it sometimes. Although I also accept some folk perhaps genuinely don't care what happens to them.

[(Anonymous)]

Or if you DO want a natural burial a la "throw me in a hole", that requires a lot of planning and forethought because there aren't a lot of natural-burial cemeteries around and there are a lot of rules about transportation and storage of human remains in the meantime...basically, yeah, if you don't want your loved ones to have to worry about you after death, you're going to have to spend sometime worrying about it yourself now so they won't have to.