[ SECRET POST #5257 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5257 ⌋

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[The Green Knight (2021)]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

SA - In other words: no, despite what society (which is made of a few privileged folks who dictate what we should think and a huge amount of people trying to be one of em) may lead you to believe, you are not obliged to hate or resent your parents only because they couldn't (mentally or socially or finantially or whatever) give you a textbook upbringing, and you don't have to feel like suffering and therapy is your destined chore either is my point. You are the only person who will be with yourself until the day you die so don't assume that your discomfort or unhappiness to adapt to others' delusions is the only way out or the only right way. You should do what makes you ultimately happy be it therapy or just acknowledging and moving on because you're a free adult.

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT--I hope you say this shit to your paying clients, because the ones that didn't grow up in cages deserve to know you think being negatively impacted by parental abuse once they reach adulthood is their choice and they just need to choose not to have issues and stop going to therapy. Jfc.

--my mom and her brothers got raped by their dad and she and her eldest brother drank themselves to death.

[(Anonymous)]

Fucking this, holy shit, talk about privilege. Fucking Christ, I hope this "therapist" loses their job and ends up destitute in retail for awhile to grow some actual fucking empathy.

[(Anonymous)]

I wish you the same

[(Anonymous)]

Have worked retail, and also been abused, so fuck off you fake-ass therapist up your own ass so far you're kissing yourself.

[(Anonymous)]

Wasn't going to bother replying but since I decided to reply everyone anyway, so you know well how bad it sucks to work in retail huh? So: wishing the same. And if it makes you happy I don't work as a therapist.

[(Anonymous)]

Are you dumb or retarded? I am saying that they're not their upbringing. They're able to get out of this, be it through therapy or other means. If they seek a therapist, fine, they want to grow out of it through therapy. All I am saying is that it's fine too if they get over it in other ways, but obviously they should get over it? People should be happy - is it a difficult concept?

[(Anonymous)]

-- I really shouldn't say what I've gone through or what I've suffered in my undergraduation because privileged folks assumed that I had! to! go! to! therapy because I wasn't as privileged as they were lol. Thankfully things got better but I don't think everyone lives in a perfect world and don't assume everyone does or can at a given time but clearly you don't know where I am coming from.

[(Anonymous)]

You sound like you have a chip on your shoulder

Maybe you can be an adult responsible for their own happiness and decide you don't NEED to have that chip

[(Anonymous)]

I could say something snarky and childish like "you sound like you have a stick up your ass", but I'm opting out of it and thanking you for your reply

[(Anonymous)]

"I'm not owned! I'm not owned!"

[(Anonymous)]

And also, sorry for the "are you dumb or retarded" if you're not trolling about your experiences. (I would never say my experiences like this on the internet, so I assume the worst.) I've seen people say worst things here, like "Fucking this, holy shit, talk about privilege. Fucking Christ, I hope this "therapist" loses their job and ends up destitute in retail for awhile to grow some actual fucking empathy.", so I just decided to be my worst self for a while.

[(Anonymous)]

No, my maternal grandfather was really an incestuous rapist. He was also a racist sexist PoS who cheered on MLK's assassination, and he spent his 70th birthday in jail for trying to rape a paperboy, he beat his wife who also drank herself to death, he spied on his neighbors with binoculars and set traps for and shot at birds and cats because they might shit on his car...

My mom thought my paranoid schizophrenic addict dad was a step up, and it's true he never raped me, just put me on starvation diets, force fed me toxic doses of nutritional supplements until I puked, frisbeed meals that weren't pure and healthy enough into the yard while screaming and throwing me around the kitchen, took up with a cocaine addict girlfriend my age while I was in high school, spent decades of savings on drugs of all kinds in a couple years, kicked and threw stuff at my dogs, was finally arrested for shooting out an acquaintance's windows with illegally modified to be fully automatic firearms loaded with armor piercing rounds while wearing body armor because he threatened a cop, patrolled around our yard with his guns refusing to let my mother or I leave, stalked us whenever we went out to eat anywhere insufficiently "pure," and then took all his anti-psychotic meds at once and threw himself in front of a truck and took ten minutes to die.

My mom's drinking and drug use accelerated after that because she blamed herself, she got three different kinds of cancer and used to slam me into the wall or bite me when I took away her alcohol; she would get black out drunk and then bleed everywhere when she fell; her last Christmas, the tree and all the ornaments got covered in blood. When the firemen came in to take her to the hospital, one said "holy FUCK" because the house looked like a horror movie set. Once her esophagus ruptured and she threw up blood all over the house and a neighbor called the cops on me while I was at the hospital with mom because she came to check up on her and thought I'd murdered her.

I haven't done much therapy but I have no trouble sharing this stuff online.

It's possible to have a shit life without being stuck in a cage, and I can't help thinking you must be an awful therapist for thinking your clients, even the ones whose lives were way less awful than mine or even my mother's, should be able to just get over it.

I get that empathy fatigue is a thing, especially for mental health professionals. But your attitude sounds like contempt and the clients you think of like that need a different therapist. If you only acknowledge horrific levels of abuse as justification for trauma, maybe you should specialize in child soldiers, trafficking victims, or warzone refugees.

Also, never fucking work with neurodivergent patients, asshole--I actually am brain damaged from being born three months premature, thanks for noticing.

[(Anonymous)]

See: comment below since I misfired. And don't worry I know my limits unlike some folks who try to argue with someone who was just trying to comment a movie.

[(Anonymous)]

If YOU are not trolling, then I mean this in earnest.

I DO hope you lose your job as therapist and are never allowed in any position where you have any power/guidance role over anyone, especially a vulnerable or weak person. You should not work with the public at all, just stick to machines or office filing or even custodial work. (And for the record, there's no shame in any of those professions either.) But we don't need any more damaged people in this world than we already do. It's frightening that you aren't even concerned that your views could potentially hurt others in your "care."

[(Anonymous)]

See, I didn't even want to read what you said. First because it's only harming the both of us, because you're just exposing yourself needlessly to make me acknowledge that you're a victim who had it terribly and I am not trying to oppose you here, but you didn't have to. Though I read excerpts of what you said (the first paragraph and the end) like the sexually abusive maternal grandfather and the mental health issues from birth and I can relate to both, but from the get go I knew I wouldn't be able to really understand your story because unfortunately I am not an American citizen and likely never will be. So, really, it's pointless. I will never have lived your life and you will never have lived mine and I am not putting my own misery out here like it's a competition when from the beginning my saying was "people should be happy anyway". No idea which anons you are or what you wanted to prove. Snarky immature me would ask you not to invite me to your next pity party and laugh at loud out of sheer inaptitude to deal with her own feelings and to protect herself but I am choosing to be better than that by giving you a serious answer since you decided to open up anyway. I do stick to office work in child welfare and I love it by the way. I know my own limits, don't worry about it.

[(Anonymous)]

This was a misfire but in the end the last part was directed at the right comment anyway

[(Anonymous)]

Well so I had to distance myself and cool down to see what was wrong. Obviously I was talking from my own POV - as I HAD said at first, I heard things like "wow this is bad go to therapy" way too much and I actually heard I'd have to go to therapy forever by people ("respectable" practicing therapists I should say) that wouldn't bother being open and humane about it like a fucking decent human being. In other words they were worse than my so-called abusive parent and never gave a fuck to the harm they did to me only because I believed them. So I acknowledge that just like there are abusive parents there's shitty therapy too and in the end therapy is just a path to an end but you can choose others. I was speaking from my own place and experiences which obviously... Aren't shared by many people. Sorry if I came across as saying you're weak if you go to therapy really (it's odd to me so I didn't think it might be read as such). Even because, guess what, I was talking about how I felt about a movie and people jumped shark

[(Anonymous)]

As someone whose parents did their best and didn't abuse me but still royally fucked me up emotionally which I'm very much in therapy for to try and undo as an adult--fuck you.

[(Anonymous)]

Great for you, all I am saying is you shouldn't feel that you're obliged to it unlike some therapists want you to believe so you will pay them.

[(Anonymous)]

Says the therapist who shouldn't be paid because they're so bad they should lose their license and never go near another human being again.

[(Anonymous)]

*shrug* good thing I don't practice isn't it? Fuck you.