[ SECRET POST #5320 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5320 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[Star Trek: Discovery]



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[Babylon 5]


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[simsecret LJ community]


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[Babylon 5]


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08. [SPOILERS for iCarly 2021]




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Comments

[fscom]

05. https://i.imgur.com/DUbWZ0n.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know what this is, but what's the age gap? Is the redhead in this pic the woman in question because from the grey hair and eye crinkles I probably wouldn't have put the gap at maybe more than 5 to 10 years?

[(Anonymous)]

About 30 years - he's 65, she's 35-36.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Mid-thirties is well old enough for a person to be experienced and to know what she wants in a romantic relationship.

[(Anonymous)]

Some other anon

Agreed completely.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

I was just giving the information asked, if I implied judgement, it wasn't intentional. For the record, they met in 2010 and married in 2014. And while I will say people's maturity levels vary wildly, I believe that adults capable of consent have the right and should have the agency to make their own decisions regarding their relationships, as long as no one is being caused real harm.

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AYRT

Sorry, didn't mean to come across as if I was chiding you.

More just expressing my feelings about adults having the right to decide which adults they want to be involved with.

Apologies.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Ah, I see. I can get behind that sentiment. Apology accepted and sorry back for assuming admonishment from your statement.

[(Anonymous)]

One thousand percent this.

They met when she was 26. They knew each other for four years before marrying. He doesn't appear to have a history of seeking out much younger people as romantic partners. They have a shared passion. And she's a freaking doctor. Whatever the opposite of red flags is, their relationship has 'em in spades.

Not that they need to prove anything to anyone, given that they were both grown-ass adults well before they even met, let alone got involved.

[(Anonymous)]

Getting together with someone my parents' age wouldn't be for me anyway.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know. It's clear that there are some relationships where the age gap and power differential is legitimately sketchy. But that's obviously not the case in every such relationship, and at a certain point you also have to respect the woman's agency. Ultimately it's up to her if she wants that relationship.

[nanslice]

She always seems more than capable of handling him tbh. Plus, I mean. Before they got together, wasn't he basically living above his clinic and being basically a recluse? Anyways, I still love him and I'm cool with their relationship.

[(Anonymous)]

I am a woman in her mid thirties who is with a man who is currently in his mid fifties. We have been together six years, which obviously means when we met I was in my late twenties and he was in his late forties. And yes, that makes him close to the same age as my parents.

Here's my message to anyone who would call our relationship "creepy": stop infantilizing women.

I am a full grown woman, I don't need virtue-signaling, savior-complex warriors trying to "help me", and I don't need other people crying about the power imbalance and whatever. There IS no power imbalance in my relationship, because we talk and figure out what we BOTH want. Because despite what you may think about his age, he is NOT my father, and we are PARTNERS.

Part of being feminist is realizing that sometimes? You need to just shut up and let the WOMAN handle her own situation. She can speak for herself and she doesn't need to be saved.