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So today was a clusterfuck at work. Turns out the paralegal who has been here longer than the rest of us (she's been at the office about a year) doesn't like change and doesn't like that she's having to teach us attorney procedures and doesn't like not being in charge. She's gone to the head boss with claims that I haven't been doing intakes on cases that for the most part never actually hired us and that my supervisor is faking the surgery she's out this week to get.

My supervisor is trying to clear things up with the head boss, but I honestly don't know how it is all going to end up going down.

I've been nothing but kind, nice, willing to learn, and I ask for help and don't boss her around. And that may be part of the problem, that she doesn't see me as her superior because I haven't been acting like it. But she takes offense at any criticism, claims we're being arrogant if we even suggest her ideas and need to control cases is wrong, and is doing the same thing to my supervisor/department head who absolutely acts like a boss.

I don't even know. I'm just exhausted and frustrated. I didn't even have a chance to eat lunch today. I'm currently cheating on my diet by making a box of Kraft Mac and cheese. It was either that or alcohol, and I thought the mac and cheese was a more justifiable cheat.

are you both women and is this paralegal like this with men or other women? does your firm have a lot of female attorneys? sometimes I've found if a person is used to dealing with men, that it's straight up sexism.

That paralegal is a woman, my supervisor and I are both women, the second paralegal is a man, the head guy is a man. But her previous department supervisor was also a woman. My impression is its less sexism and more dislike of change and wanting to stop said change.

Re: Vent thread

meadowphoenix - 2021-10-07 01:05 (UTC) - Expand

I have no idea about this situation but I'm hoping that things will become healthier soon.

Back in an old home town and dealing with childhood prejudices and not being liked again. I'm only here for my mom's sake, but god I hate it here and want to leave already. What is the opposite of a vacation called? Because this would be that term.

Same anon:

I'm just hunkering down, trying to take a nap on an uncomfortable bed, and watching videos about keyboards. It helps out some, and hopefully I won't feel so much like a zombie anymore.

I'm in a different but similar situation to yours.

I'm back to my old home country for a while due to mental health reasons and I hate it. Before I was living in a huge city where no one gave two fucks about what I'd do and now I'm stuck in my homophobic little town with racist and bigoted people all around me.

I can take things easy now because I'm staying woth my parents and can not work, but my tollerance for bigotry became very low all the years I lived abroad and now I don't know how to cope with people around all me (my family included) so I just don't ever leave home. :///

Hang in there! Hope the future will be kinder to you and that you'll be able to leave soon.

i've been discussing me doing training in my field with my case manager at the jobcenter, because even though i studied it once that was 7 years ago and i've never worked in it, so there's literally no point in me trying to find jobs with how i am. because of covid this whole thing got pushed back for like 1 1/2 year since i needed a (mental) health evaluation if i want them to pay for it and they'd been closed down etc. so it's been really tough waiting.
so we finally got the results from my evaluation and yay, i'm fit to go into training. but during our talk it became very apparent... that she wasn't thinking of full training, which would take a couple of years, but just some courses that would take at most a couple of months. i'm trying not to panic about it, but i'm so heartbroken because i had such high hopes of just getting to start over. 7 years of severe depression have completely shot my memory. without hyperbole i remember nothing of what i learned, a couple of months are not going to cut it. i told myself i'd be prepared for disappointment because it sounded too good to be true anyway but i can't help it i'm so upset

education is garbage anyway. You need actual work experience. Studying in the field, learning from the people around is the best.

This is a very subjective thing you’re espousing so confidently, and with no self-awareness.

Some things work better for some people, but not everyone. Keep your takes to yourself if this is all you can offer.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) - 2021-10-07 20:20 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) - 2021-10-07 17:22 (UTC) - Expand

I get that sometimes people can't afford vet care for their pets all the time, especially with the pandemic.

I get that the way people treat their pets varies and that some Americans probably over medicate their animals. I even get why some people still have outdoor cats. I may not like it, but I get it.

But I get "I think they belong to those people over there" when I ask neighbors where the cats hanging out in my yard, with no collars or tags, scrawny, flea and tapeworm infested, and covered in wounds, live, and then I ask the indicated neighbors and get "we call that one so and so."

"And the other?"

*shrug*

"But are they your cats?"

*shrug*

And then one shows up with a huge absess and I can't take it anymore and bring it to the vet. He had an old dirty collar with no tags for a couple days once, but he lost it fast.

At least he's fixed, but he's not chipped and I spent $200 on him for antibiotics and abscess draining and flea meds, and he still needs booster shots. And there's another one. It just healed from a nasty bite to the head a couple weeks ago.

I have to bring my indoor cat to the vet tomorrow, and I just hope there's no more vet worthy injuries in the three cats I'm responsible for (I only wanted one dammit) for awhile.

I can't keep the two strays inside; my cat hates all other animals. I think multiple people may be feeding them, but I'm tempted to get them both chipped with my contact info in case something else happens. They may be the sort that Houdini out of collars, my inside one ditches hers in a day and my roommate's can wiggle free in thirty seconds.

I don't know what to do; I don't want to take people's beloved pets to the shelter, but I wish their owners would at least keep them inside when they're injured, and get them chipped if they can't keep collars on.

Maybe I'm bitching about someone who died of COVID; it would explain why the cats went from passing through my yard every couple months and scared of me to sitting in my lap and following me around. I started feeding them in January, when I caught one eating mixed grain and mealworms in the chicken coop and realized they were starving.

aw poor kitties

IMO, I if these cats are not being properly cared for, they're not someone's beloved pet. I'd take them to a no kill shelter if possible and hope they find a good home with people who actually care about them.

I complained to FS a few months ago about a friend of mine going for IVF even though she's unfit (arthritis & migraines), single, and not that well off financially. Well, at the time she said she would do two rounds and no more.
Guess what?
Yesterday she told me she's going back again. And now? She doesn't even have secure housing! Her lease is coming to an end, her landlord is selling up, and she doesn't have a new place lined up - but she's still spending time and money on this because she wants a little girl (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻
I want to shake some sense into her, but I just keep biting my tongue.

Don't. She needs to know she's going to fuck over a kid because she's thinking about cut mommy-daughter bonding times which won't even happen if she's too busy trying to even put cereal on the table.

I'm not unsympathetic, but some women aren't really rational when it comes to having babies, unfortunately.

Thanks to travel restrictions it'll be another holiday season without seeing my partner. My home country has one of the lowest covid numbers in the region, but there's nothing we can do about it because of good ole racism. Thanks I guess!

I wish I wouldn't go looking for validation, especially online.

Damn, I feel that.

I fucking hate mice. I have one in my apt and the other night it managed to get one foot or its tail or something stuck in a glue trap but not the rest of it so it dragged it under the fridge and I can't get it out. Wasted a glue trap and didn't get rid of the mouse.

What are you, the mouse equivalent of a Bond villain? Get some fucking snap traps.

Re: Vent thread

greghousesgf - 2021-10-07 14:37 (UTC) - Expand

You’ve certainly made it clear how much you hated mice in the past. And while I don’t agree with the mouse hate, I can still emphasize with attempts at getting rid of pests failing.

Get some sticky tack, put a little bit on the corners of your remaining traps, and stick them to the floor/bottom of your cupboards. It's strong enough to keep a struggling mouse from dragging the trap somewhere, but won't adhere to your surfaces enough to make them difficult for you to remove.

I went to a concert and the sound cut out for like 10 minutes. We couldn't hear *anything* and the band didn't realize (??) and kept playing. Like, ok, they didn't want to throw off their rhythm, but they shouldn't have started another song while the sound was out. Some people think the band didn't realize, but someone should have told them?

I was a great time, but I missed two songs and I'm kind of peeved about that.

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