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Re: CW/TW: Food, Eating Disorder

[(Anonymous)]

How do you know if you have/are developing an eating disorder?

I'll try to keep it brief but can elaborate if need be. Basically, I never had good eating habits but for the past year(ish) I've started eating a lot less. It had nothing to do with a desire to lose weight but recently I discovered I've lost some weight and for a couple weeks now I've noticed how I worry about eating. And yesterday and today I realized I had an argument in my head, "Should I eat the whole thing or eat enough to feel full?" which was mostly motivated over a fear of gaining weight.

Re: CW/TW: Food, Eating Disorder

[(Anonymous)]

Mostly what makes something a disorder over a bad habit is how difficult it is to stop.

Try planning out a week's meals - make them nutritionally balanced, but reasonably tasty.

See how hard it is to stick to the plan. If it's fine, or maybe vaguely annoying because scheduling sucks, then you probably just have a bad habit. If you start getting panicky at any point, though, might want to consult an expert.

And, congrats on thinking about things before they become a big issue. I'm proud of you.

Re: CW/TW: Food, Eating Disorder

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT
Thank you so much for replying!

I'll set up meal plans and see how it goes from there. Thank you for the tip!

Thank you, I'm in my mid30s and this is new to me. I have always simply eaten when I am hungry, and now that I'm not always hungry my relationship to food has changed and I'm like, "Is this a problem or am I just approaching it wrong?"

Re: CW/TW: Food, Eating Disorder

[(Anonymous)]

You're very welcome. I just hope things work out for you.

And hey, it's been a tough couple of years for everyone: it's okay to be fraying at the edges a little - pretty much everyone is in some way.

Hug?

Re: CW/TW: Food, Eating Disorder

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you so much!

Re: CW/TW: Food, Eating Disorder

[(Anonymous)]

Anon above has a good plan for you to try. I would follow that advice but also investigate a little more closely why you are worrying about your eating habits.

In my anecdotal history with EDs, developing an eating disorder is about control. It's a preoccupation with food and eating because it is a very concrete way to impose order. In say, a global pandemic, when you may have high anxieties and little that you an individual can do about it, food may be an outlet for having power over Something. For everyone I knew with an EDs and my own disordered eating, the food was always a proxy for something else: fears, anxieties, depression, etc.

And as a high anxiety person, what my anxious ticks focus on are rarely what is actually causing me anxiety but what I can control. (I have a recurring anxious tick with closing and locking my front door repeatedly but it manifests due to other anxiety inducing situations in my life. Not that I think my door has suddenly lost it's locking potential)

Find a time not associated with a meal and in a calm, logical way talk yourself through what's bothering you about your food intake. It may be something simple like you're growing older and just need a little research about how to maintain a healthy body. It could be a much more complicated set of anxieties. If it starts to feel overwhelming or you feel that your eating habits or thoughts about your eating habits have started negatively affecting your life, it may be time to talk to a professional.

And if this all sounds wildly off base and you start to feel like this is a lot of naval gazing, the problem may not be disordered eating or a mental health issue. Still if the issues remain, you may still want to talk to a medical doctor on why your appetite and weight are decreasing.