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Re: Vent/whine thread

[(Anonymous)]

Being in my mid30s...I have 2 pleated skirts, one of them is a basic baby blue tennis skort (lined with built in fabric under skirt so it feels like I'm wearing shorts, so comfy) and the other is a yellow plaid skirt which I bought mostly with the intent to dress up like Cher from "Clueless". Just need to find a top and jacket to go with it. I also have cute cotton black circle skirt I bought a few years ago to emulate Ariana Grande when I'm feeling inspired by her style.

It was a childhood daydream of mine to dress cute and girly like a lot of girls/women in pop culture I grew up watching a lot of. Never really got the opportunity for a myriad of reasons. Finally am allowing myself this joy after 35-ish years. It's been fun. Also, as an adult, learning why women in the grunge/Riot Grrl scene/culture would dress up in babydoll dresses or cute clothes and just rock the fuck out, I find it very inspiring. Womanhood means yeah, we can be pretty and cute and feminine, but we can also be angry and full of raw, undiluted forces of energy that aren't passive or gentle. Womanhood is beauty but it is also ugly; it can be soft and hard; calculated and unhinged.

I stop myself from judging others for the way they dress and how much or how little they show off (wasn't always like this). A lot of internalized misogyny played a lot into what held me back from expressing myself through clothes. Do I want to feel sexy? Yes. But that's not the ONLY reason why I wear mini skirts or spaghetti strap sundresses or tight see through tops or why I wear thongs or lacy panties. I genuinely find these looks cute and pretty, and I feel pretty and feminine when I dress up, even a little. Cute undies/thongs make me feel feminine and pretty and it's for ME. Also, my outfits do subtly feel and look better if I don't have visible panty lines in my pants/jeans/dress/skirt so it's all good.

Also, yeah the whole sitting thing and your butt touches all surfaces? I always bring a jacket to set down (or if I forget I just live with the consequences and it's a small thing for me right now that it's not that big of a nuisance).

tl;dr: I'm sorry you feel like a hater nonny, but I hope you can come to be a little more open and kind to the side of yourself that wants to express more forms of hoe-y-ness you want. XD <3 I don't know if it means anything but this nonny thinks it's great you have a desire to dress up more.
I tell myself it's more of a way to express my femininity, a way to find/give beauty in/to myself, fulfilling a desire I've wanted since childhood that I was never given a true opportunity to try out, and another way to figure out/navigate my life as a woman in this world.
If anyone wants to give this femininity performance a try, even if you feel like you're too old, I say, go for it. You're never too old. Live for yourself, not society's standards. <3
Besides, if you find that you don't like how you look in those clothes, at least you know now and have worn them. Clothes are temporary. You can always change them.

Re: Vent/whine thread

[(Anonymous)]

PS. I hate low rise jeans. They were the RAGE when I was a teen and I was too insecure and aware of my big stomach that I knew they wouldn't flatter my body. BUT THEY WERE LITERALLY THE ONLY JEANS I COULD FIND (ESPECIALLY BEING POOR AND NOT BEING ALLOWED TO BUY JEANS ANY MORE EXPENSIVE THAN LIKE $20). I fucking HATED that the only jeans around were fucking tight, uncomfortable fucking low rise jeans.

If people like it, whatever, but for FUCK'S SAKE, retailers are fucking assholes for only providing low rise jeans. That was my issue with crop tops too!!!!! The choices were either loose ass ugly tops that hide the figure or crop tops that barely covered my huge boobs. Young, insecure me couldn't find a happy medium. My solution to crop tops now (and most times see through tops) I wear a spaghetti strap tank top underneath.

Re: Vent/whine thread

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I don't know if you'll see this, but if you do, thank you <3 I'm going to be thirty soon and I put off a lot certain items and policed myself very heavily (not just in clothes) and there were things I always felt were too provocative or what have and would always say I'll wear it when I'm older, when I'm older, okay how much older? Lol. But I really appreciate your comment and thanks for sharing! I'm saving this comment in my bookmarks. I had written about two paragraphs earlier wanting to continue discussing femininity and the performance of it, and what it means. But I lost it lol. Suffice to say that in my head, I always felt a dichotomy between Xena and a 1950s housewife. And in the end I take masculine things and mold them into something that suits me. In the end, it's just clothing though --- but man oh man how it can be a sword and shield... there's just so much to speak on the subject.



Also, $25 jeans or less is how I've always and still currently live -- so I'm really glad the high waisted, 90s, whatever elephant legged jeans are in style, I'm going to stock up.