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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2022-10-10 05:42 pm

[ SECRET POST #5757 ]


⌈ Secret Post #5757 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2022-10-10 11:05 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't know this fandom or this character, but that statement doesn't work for me. Most abusers don't know they're abusive. They're not doing it on purpose out of sadism. They're just ignorant of how their victims feel and/or why it matters and/or what they could do otherwise.

(Anonymous) 2022-10-10 11:08 pm (UTC)(link)
+100 this is really important and something that gets lost in every fandom discussion of abuse. "Abuser" isn't a job description; it's a relationship.

(Anonymous) 2022-10-10 11:32 pm (UTC)(link)
DA

THIS. And it's also not an immutable identity. Almost anyone could be an abuser under certain circumstances. I'm suspicious of people who are convinced that they themselves could never become one.

(Anonymous) 2022-10-10 11:48 pm (UTC)(link)
EXACTLY. Hell, both of the people I've been abused by were abused themselves! No one sets out /intending/ to abuse someone.