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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2022-12-10 05:16 pm

[ SECRET POST #5818 ]


⌈ Secret Post #5818 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2022-12-10 11:39 pm (UTC)(link)
As a trans masc person, I'm strangely the opposite?? Fic acknowledging that trans men can carry feels very validating to me. That I tend to stick to plotty fics and not kinky fics might be a factor in that; but either way, it's interesting to see how people in similar circumstances can differ so wildly on a matter!

(Anonymous) 2022-12-10 11:49 pm (UTC)(link)
yeah, that's part of why I read omegaverse as a trans guy-- love to see 'actually it's normal for some men to get pregnant' without like... actually delving into the reality of being a real world man who can get real world pregnant, a thing I'd rather die than real world do.

(Anonymous) 2022-12-10 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
+1, totally not bothered by this in Omegaverse (or other fantastical universes) absolutely hate it in realistic canons, especially when it's used as a way to "out" the trans guy.

(Anonymous) 2022-12-11 12:00 am (UTC)(link)
I'm a cis woman and can't stand the idea of being pregnant, but I like A/B/O and breeding kink stuff, sometimes we only want stuff in a controllted fantasy aspect and that's fine.

(Anonymous) 2022-12-11 02:44 am (UTC)(link)
For real though. I'm a cis woman with a straight up pregnancy kink (as in, "character gets knocked up by accident and doesn't even realize it until like six months in" kind of stuff). But I have no desire to be a parent IRL, and prefer my pregnancy kink content to be mpreg specifically because it keeps it in the realm of the fictional and impersonal.

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(Anonymous) 2022-12-11 09:46 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you, Secret Maker! I appreciate you managing to bring a lot of joy to this community. :D

It's been lovely seeing people understand where I'm coming from at last, because normally it seems to be a joke that some people's kinks are not possible IRL. I have seen people push for the most realism possible in regards to fic, and I was over here like "nooooo, please I need my escapism. :')" It's a 'different tastes for different folks' issue, but I'm grateful that people here are kind about it. Yeah, count me as another person who would also rather die than ever experience pregnancy. The comment about controlled fantasy resonates with me. Sometimes, it's just nice to explore with some degree of distance in the subject matter.

(Anonymous) 2022-12-11 12:12 pm (UTC)(link)
I feel this a lot, as a cis lesbian who, when reading/writing original stories, tends to center female characters and wlw relationships. In fandom spaces though? I have always exclusively shipped slash pairings, never felt a particular inclination towards femslash, and avoid genderbending as a trope.

For a while I had a lot of anxiety about whether I didn't "support" femslash/female characters/r63 because of misogyny/lesbophobia/transphobia, but nowadays I know myself well enough to know it's about escapism-- having a space in fiction where I don't have to think about my body, or people with bodies like mine.

It... kind of sucks sometimes because I feel like current queer fandom centers the presence of uplifting elements that we're supposed to identify with as the right way to do fandom, rather than the absence of distressing elements from our everyday lives. Which feels connected to how some people see fandom more as a space for activism than escapism.

(Anonymous) 2022-12-11 01:54 pm (UTC)(link)
I get this, as a straight trans man who used to identify as a lesbian pre-realization. Slash was my first love when it comes to shipping and fic, and slash is still one my greatest fandom passions. And I think a lot of it had to do with my gender dysphoria, and the escapism slash gave from that for me. I like f/f more post-transitioning, but I still don’t tend to read as much smut of it than I do slash, with some exceptions. And all this despite never being attracted to men, only finding a couple of male celebrities and fictional characters hot. So there is a lot to be said about the escapism of fiction and fanworks. Even if what you prefer to read, watch, write, or draw doesn’t reflect your irl sexuality or gender identity. Fandom is a good outlet sometimes!