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[ SECRET POST #5819 ]

⌈ Secret Post #5819 ⌋

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Yeah, more or less. Major second hand embarrassment.

I’m sorry. I know, it sucks when your own embarrassment makes you feel bad seeing other people enjoying themselves.

+1

Time to let go of the cringe crap, grow up, and realize that your second-hand embarrassment is only your problem, not anyone else's.

Yes, because OP said "And I force these cosplayers to STOP IT at gunpoint". Here's a hint for you - most people are aware second hand embarassment is their own issue. That's why they avoid things that give them second hand embarassment. I know it's hard for some of you to understand this, but that's what most sane people do: Avoid shit that makes them uncomfortable instead of seeking it out.

Da

And yet they made a secret about it, in a public forum where people are allowed to comment their thoughts. I know that might be hard for you to understand.

That's why it's a secret, dummy. Something you WOULDN'T tell people directly to their faces. I know that might be a bit hard for you to understand.

But you’re telling your secret to a public forum full of people who have the right to comment, dummy. You didn’t counter anything I said, considering I never said this wasn’t a secret or that it was totally something they would say in person. I said that the secret allows comments, and people are allowed to criticize or explain why logic is faulty. It doesn’t suddenly mean it’s not a secret. I know that might be hard for you to understand, like most things must be.

Like nuance and subjectivity. I’m not saying I displayed those, but several others did. And you ignored the meat of their arguments and criticisms to be an asshole. You try to deflect because you have no argument, come in aggro like a child throwing a tantrum because people disagree with you and OP and you don’t think that should be allowed, and you have the audacity to call anyone else dumb. Or, I’m sorry, a “dummy”. Because you had to let everyone know how immature and without a shred of credibility you are up front. Again, people are allowed to criticize and verbally disagree with secrets. Are you new here?

There isn't really any meat in the comments above other than "cringe bad".

There is, and it’s disingenuous to pretend otherwise.

DA

There's also another possibility that will help when you can't avoid it: realize that heavy second-hand embarrassment is a mental health issue that's causing you a lot of totally unnecessary discomfort (that most people don't feel when they see something harmless like a person in costume at a con), and actually work to get over it.

I'm glad that it doesn't make you act like a jerk to other people (there are some who have no such filter, believe me), but you'd probably be better off if you could find a way to feel it less or not at all.

I get massive second hand embarrassment too. Then I remind myself to keep that shit silent and let people enjoy themselves. Remember: Your first thought is what you've been conditioned to think. Your second thought it who you really are.

Nothing in this secret says OP does otherwise though, so...

AYRT

Did I say anything in my comment that implied they did? I shared my experience and a reminder to everyone that just because you cringe as a first response it doesn't mean you want everyone to stop having their fun. I agree with the general statement that you shouldn't kill the cringe, but the part of you that cringes. Reminding yourself that your first response isn't your fault is reminding yourself that you're not a bad person for your instinctive response.

Don’t bother. This anon’s just got a chip on their shoulder when it comes to anyone engaging with this secret in any way that isn’t agreement.

Nah, you can disagree all you want, it's insinuating that OP goes around bitching at cosplayers left and right that's rubbing me the wrong way.

I don’t think that’s what they meant, but that’s a reasonable point.

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