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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2022-12-21 07:17 pm

[ SECRET POST #5829 ]


⌈ Secret Post #5829 ⌋

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Re: Secrets you don't want to make...

(Anonymous) 2022-12-22 11:11 pm (UTC)(link)
You get better at this by practicing, anon. "What do I like about this?" is a good question. Instead of letting your insecurities give you dismissive answers, take it as a given that you've got a right to like things, even if you don't know why, and that your first answers aren't necessarily going to be very convincing. If you're used to criticizing yourself, the answers you get until trust is established are probably *meant* to keep you some distance away from what really matters to you, because having those parts sniped at would hurt. But accept what you get, and keep trying. There's a certain internal ... joy at getting to talk about something you care about, even when you're just explaining it to yourself. Follow that, and you'll get more detailed answers.

Oh, and the people who can't articulate anything that actually gives you a sense of what their perspective is, they just insult everything in very general terms? You're probably better off not letting them rant within earshot of you. Not all criticism is created equal, but people with a strong critical headvoice tend to feel across-the-board like criticism is always more reflective of reality than praise is. And "the worst explanation for anything must be the correct one" is just another kind of bias.