[ SECRET POST #5829 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5829 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Secrets you don't want to make...

[(Anonymous)]

When a lot of people are critical about something I like I start to feel like maybe they're right that it's bad and I'm wrong in liking it.

I'm not even talking about people saying something is "problematic." That might make sense. I'm just talking about people saying that the characters are annoying or the plot is stupid - stuff like that.

Why can't I just like things and not be so incredibly insecure?

Re: Secrets you don't want to make...

[(Anonymous)]

I am shaking your hand anon, I'm exactly like this too and I hate it. Not only about media but other things in my life too.

Re: Secrets you don't want to make...

[(Anonymous)]

I feel it in my soul. Sometimes I just stop liking favorite things a little even after rreading absolutely legitimate criticism that fandom people make. This is especially ironic since I can be critical af

Re: Secrets you don't want to make...

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, legitimate criticism makes me feel way worse than stupid criticism. Because if they have a good point, then I know I'm wrong. I read an essay about how a character I related to a lot was really shallow and inconsistently written, and all of it was true. I was just too stupid to notice because I was too busy having feels about how they acted over their depression and self-loathing just like I did.

Re: Secrets you don't want to make...

[(Anonymous)]

Yeeeeees. Stupid criticism you can laugh about. But when you get to "damn, they are right" it is so much more depressing. I do still think that every story and character has it's merits even if they are not perfect or even that good, but I still get a little bit sad

Re: Secrets you don't want to make...

[(Anonymous)]

You get better at this by practicing, anon. "What do I like about this?" is a good question. Instead of letting your insecurities give you dismissive answers, take it as a given that you've got a right to like things, even if you don't know why, and that your first answers aren't necessarily going to be very convincing. If you're used to criticizing yourself, the answers you get until trust is established are probably *meant* to keep you some distance away from what really matters to you, because having those parts sniped at would hurt. But accept what you get, and keep trying. There's a certain internal ... joy at getting to talk about something you care about, even when you're just explaining it to yourself. Follow that, and you'll get more detailed answers.

Oh, and the people who can't articulate anything that actually gives you a sense of what their perspective is, they just insult everything in very general terms? You're probably better off not letting them rant within earshot of you. Not all criticism is created equal, but people with a strong critical headvoice tend to feel across-the-board like criticism is always more reflective of reality than praise is. And "the worst explanation for anything must be the correct one" is just another kind of bias.