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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2023-01-01 03:39 pm

[ SECRET POST #5840 ]


⌈ Secret Post #5840 ⌋

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[Whose Line is it, Anyway?]


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[Pic is from Fullmetal Alchemist]


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Re: What do you want to do in 2023?

(Anonymous) 2023-01-01 11:42 pm (UTC)(link)
Re your first point, without knowing what particular issues you're concerned about, and assuming you don't have access to therapy to talk through it, I offer the following suggestions -

Sometimes people adopt a defensive/hostile demeanour to ultimately protect themselves from hurt/rejection. Ie, 'You can't reject me if I reject you first'.

Sometimes people get hung up in perfectionism in their life, and think that if everything isn't picture-perfect than the whole thing's rotten. The relevant phrase is 'don't let perfect be the enemy of good'.

And sometimes people hold views you disagree with, but you are able to be friends with them anyway. And sometimes through your friendship you can change their mind. This obviously depends on the issue you disagree on, but this path is an option for net good.

Just putting these ideas here in case they are useful in thinking through how you can let yourself be more open. Please ignore if they are not.

Re: What do you want to do in 2023?

(Anonymous) 2023-01-02 04:45 am (UTC)(link)
Mostly I'm disappointed in how many I let in my inner circle who turned out to be misogynist/racist/antivax/prone to believing stupid conspiracy theories like the ones Alex Jones pushed. That feeling of thinking you knew someone for years and then going "oh, you're actually fucking batshit? That's nice." It just makes me think my friend picker is shit.