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⌈ Secret Post #5855 ⌋

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Re: When gift exchange giftees go MIA

[(Anonymous)]

teal deer; you did just fine and her lack of acknowledgment is not on you, also I went through something similar and can confirm it sucks

You're not selfish IMO. Secret Santa exchanges are kind of a contract. You present something to someone, and someone presents something to you. Maybe others will argue otherwise, but I think acknowledgment goes along with that. I would say the bare minimum would be a "thank you." It doesn't have to be gushing praise. But being ignored after the work you put into something just feels awful.

In your case, you were communicating with her during the process, so it's not like you were crapping out some thoughtless thing. I think that deserves a response, but that's just me. I don't know why she hasn't said anything. Maybe she's flaky or can't come up with the right words for a response. It's also possible that it's written amazingly and included all her favorite tropes and still didn't hit a chord with her. But that's not on you; you did what you could with the information that you had.

And hey? A bunch of other folks liked it so there's that.

I just went through this thing myself. They gave me nothing to go on, so I had to piece together something based on their interests. At Christmas, no acknowledgment from the giftee, aside from "oh, I don't know who did mine" during the guessing game, followed by radio silence until I was literally the last guess. Still nothing. Yet they praised other people's gifts and are still hanging around the comm, so it's not like they disappeared for reasons.

I wouldn't care except I would hate for them do to that to someone else next time. I'm thinking about saying something to the event organizers later this year, but I hate that people make it necessary to say stuff that should be common sense.

One thing that gives me comfort is that I didn't bother going with my original plan, which would have been more over-the-top. It would've sucked to do all that AND get radio silence.