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⌈ Secret Post #5856 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

It's different from family/culture to family/culture IMO. In my family's community, if you aren't dating/married at any point from like the age of 10-11 to death you're going to be hounded for not having any game and/or being too ugly to be valued (not an exaggeration that as soon as you can talk adults will ask you if you're dating and that question NEVER stops being asked even as you get older). Some families, even parents in their 20s-40s today, still base value upon your dating/marital life.

I still feel like there is incredible pressure to pair up. Taxes, property laws, next of kin laws, etc. a lot of society still is set up for monogamous (and most often, strictly heterosexual) couples. Anything outside of that, especially singledom, is set up to complicate things and make things way more expensive (hence making life harder) than if you had a partner.

Like, if you're feeling like being single isn't difficult to navigate, I think you've gotten a lot of privileges that some aroace folks don't have. Not that it's a bad thing, but I do wish some people would see that no one group of people is a monolith. We all don't get to interact with the world the same ways.

[(Anonymous)]

+1 like ayrt, I've been single for decades, and while there's no /overt/ pressure, I guess, I still get asked constantly, and I'm still VERY aware that my financial situation would be far more stable/comfortable if I had the privilege of, say, splitting a one-bedroom apartment and daily chores with a committed partner. That's a /fact/. (Also not aroace myself--singledom exists for more than orientation-reasons)

[(Anonymous)]

+2
I am ok being single, but I would prefer financiale stability.
And pressure is ridiculous.
Last year I've been at a family member's funeral (covid) and my aunt asked why I am not married at the fucking cemetery while standing near barely closed grave.