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⌈ Secret Post #5871 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Friend group dynamics

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe look at it like this: We all should be able to make our own choices regarding our own bodies. If your friends choose to lose weight and it's working out well for them, why not congratulate them? Assuming they're doing it in an at least semi-healthy manner. If they're losing weight because they chose to live on apple peels and black coffee or something, don't congratulate them on their new eating disorder.

Re: Friend group dynamics

[(Anonymous)]

But is any choice really free? What if, had our society been more accepting of larger bodies, they'd never have chosen to lose weight at all? What if they're chasing an expectation that's been imposed upon them, validating and perpetuating it in the process? What if, by choosing to lose weight, they're adding fuel to the fat phobic fire, and thereby indirectly harming our larger friends? None of us exists in a vacuum.

Re: Friend group dynamics

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, yes. We live in a society, etc.

But either we have the right to do what we want with our own bodies or we don't. If we do, then we still do even if our friends of any size or shape disagree with our choices. If we don't have the right to do what we want with our own bodies if our friends disapprove, well that opens a whole case of worms, now doesn't it?

Re: Friend group dynamics

[(Anonymous)]

And what if they choose to lose weight as a health decision? A person's health choices can be disregarded/dismissed or even disallowed and by that potentially causing them harm to avoid harming fat people's feelings?
I'm fat myself and I think these reasons are bullshit and only take the feelings of the fat people into consideration. By the whole "is any choice really free" logic, you could just as well say that fat people who are very into the whole fat-positive lifestyle are forced to stay fat to avoid being seen as traitors to the cause. Just look at all the vitriol thrown at Adele by fat-positive folks.

Re: Friend group dynamics

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I lost weight because being fat was affecting my health in negative ways and I didn't want to give myself health problems when I could stop them in their tracks, especially when I'd seen some of the permanent health issues that some of my obese relatives have. I didn't want that to be me, needing to have both knees replaced in my 50s because they were so wrecked by carrying that much weight.