[ SECRET POST #5880 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5880 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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06. [WARNING for discussion of transphobia (JK Rowling related)]




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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry, can you talk more about that?

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT, and I can't speak for anyone but myself, but personally I am very open to kinks in fiction, and have a lot of them, for a number of complicated reasons that can be difficult to succinctly express. But one I've seen said before, which I do identify with, is that sex already feels kind of implicitly weird to me anyway, so the differentiation between "kinky" and "not kinky" tends to feel pretty arbitrary, or even meaningless. It's sort of a "jumping into a cold lake" type deal, where the distinction between "sexual" and "not sexual" is what's really felt for me. Once I'm in that lake, it's all just water.

But then also (and this might just be me), I kind of feel like both my Id and my libido thrive on kink, because sex purely on its own is...not necessarily that arousing to me. Like don't get me wrong, I love smut. Hypothetically I love smut. But much to my own frustration, I very often find myself bored by it in practice--even when it's well written. I'm in my thirties and it's only really been in the past few years that I fully realized that pretty much all the smut which really does it for me involves kink in some capacity. In my case it's usually not formalized kink as much; it's usually informal kink. I like weird power dynamics that are being felt out and discovered with every interaction. I like characters doing weird things on impulse and being freaked out when [weird thing] really, really does it for them. That sort of stuff.

[pantswarrior]

The first paragraph here is dead on for me. I think with people who are interested in sex, having it involve something they think is gross or weird is off-putting because they have actual opinions about what they would enjoy. Since I don't find it appealing anyway, it's not like anything I do (other than particularly unpleasant things like lack of consent, which is SUPPOSED to be unpleasant) makes it less appealing.

Kinky smut largely still does nothing for me, but it is a TON more fun to read and write than vanilla when you're not in it for it being "sexy". And yessss to characters discovering things they didn't realize about themselves via kink/kink negotiation. :D When smut can be character development, that is when I find it interesting.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Yeah. I... like the element of exploration? Awkward people fitting together? Learning new things about themselves?

If a sex scene just boils down to, 'they had a nice time', well I'll wish the characters well, but I probably skipped to the end.

[pantswarrior]

Ohhh yeah, "awkward people fitting together" is great. This is why there are a few OTPs I have where I've written their first time but really don't have interest in writing any more smut for them. It was fun to see them figuring it out when they were so awkward and self-conscious - but they come off as so vanilla that I'd just write the same thing over and over and I have no interest in that. XD

(Though one of them, I've been thinking of writing a follow-up to a lengthy chaptered story I recently finished that ended with certain implications of what they'd be getting up to in an hour or so. Mostly because one of them was still wounded at the time and it would be an opportunity for the other for some very gentle and affectionate body worship, which would be cute and not so boring as just the sex.)

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

To an ace, any sex is weird already, like the first response to you above. Also, we're exposed in our daily lives to waaaaaaaaaaaay more het sex than gay sex. Both are weird to me. I object to het sex scenes a lot cause I've been seeing them since I was a child and they're fucking boring to me. Two men being bros is also the standard until recently (and still, in most media). Two whole women in a movie who can be friends much less girlfriends? That's not a thing. Gay sex scenes are more novel. So if you have an "ace" person objecting to just gay sex scenes, in media or fanfiction, I have questions. I have very pointed questions.