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⌈ Secret Post #5891 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

If he's "mentally fading, especially at night," he may be developing dementia. If so, it's going to be hard. He may not realize most of the time that he needs help--it's not stubbornness, it's a cognitive problem. (I say "most of the time" because sometimes people with dementia will have brief periods where they do understand that something's wrong.) Some people with dementia will insist that everything's fine, and find other things to blame for why they can't function the way they used to (my mom, as reading became harder for her, used to blame her glasses). And even if you can explain all the reasons why he needs help, and get him to accept them, he may not remember any of it later.

Also, dementia can cause personality changes, making people combative and angry. Especially when they're understandably frustrated by not being able to do things they could always do.

tl;dr you may not be able to convince him, or not for long. It may be better not to ask him if he wants help, but to tell him--"Okay, dad, I'm going to help you get up and walk to the kitchen." Be calm, matter of fact, treat it as normal, and hopefully he will start to accept it as normal.

But that's not guaranteed. Dementia is rough. I hope you're able to find him a good nursing home place, soon.