[ SECRET POST #5911 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5911 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[Miraculous Ladybug]



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[Clockwise from top left: Ducktales, Until Dawn, Arknights]



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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I absolutely hate seeing ND and mental health being used as an excuse for shitty behaviour because it makes life that much harder for everyone else dealing with those things. Stigmas are already so bad and now there are tons of artists and craftspeople who take on commissions they can’t do and blame their diagnoses for it. While still accepting more work! Gtfoh with that bullshit. That’s scamming people no matter how you look at it.

I could never earn a living doing any of my craft skills because I cannot work to someone else’s taste or time. I’ve hurt friendships over it and that’s fine by me because I don’t want anything to do with anyone who doesn’t respect the boundaries I set. I KNOW I can’t take commissions. I don’t talk myself into it and won’t let anyone else. I sure as hell wouldn’t “try” knowing I’d fail and then just ghost the person and keep their money.

[(Anonymous)]

agreed 100% as someone with adhd. i'm so sick and tired of people using it as an excuse to try to dodge responsibility for things because then people like me get treated suspiciously even though i bust my ass to make sure i always fulfill my obligations on time. if i take a translation commission and promise it by a certain date then it's going to be done by that date even if it means i have to stay up all night the night before to get it done because that's what i owe to the person who paid me money for it.

yes, i have adhd. i still get my shit done on time because when someone pays you to do something for them, you get it done.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes! You said it better than I could. I don’t take on stuff I know I can’t do. I’m realistic about what I can and can’t do. And before I was this honest with myself about it all, I still made damn sure I kept in touch and worked my arse off to deliver on time or as close as I possibly could. Or if I misjudged and couldn’t do it at all, I knew it almost immediately and came clean right away so they had time to make other arrangements.
But this behaviour in the secret casts even more suspicion on people like us when we’re already struggling against our issues and stigmas.

[(Anonymous)]

This. And I commissioned people back when I needed the money but, more than anything, what made me realize that I can't is not that I wouldn't fulfill the deadlines (of course I would) but my work would be inconsistent based on my mood and such so I quit. Never got any negative feedbacks or anything, but pretty sure some people weren't super happy (because the samples I made on my free time were better than what they got - but I wasn't the best at pricing either so no one complained probably in a "I got what I paid for" way) so yeah.

One thing is struggling with mental health issues, another is using it as an excuse for doing things in a sloppy unprofessional way really.

[(Anonymous)]

Yep. And if you can't hold down a day job because of your disability and take commissions for money...guess what, that *is* now your job. If things get bad, which I know they can do, give a refund. Yes, disability benefits suck in nearly all countries that have them, if you can even get them, but scamming people even though you had good intentions is not okay.

(I have an in-demand craft skill but doing a fandom-based craft swap was high enough stress for me, I'm not going to start doing it for pay.)

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not diagnosed with anything, but more because of executive dysfunction and because I'm afraid to rip off the metaphorical bandaid and find metaphorical maggots than because I'm neurotypical.

I have a full time job that I can mostly do okay, and understanding coworkers when I have issues.

I also have a bunch of creative hobbies and my current boss has figured out she can get more work out of me if I get to indulge in them on the clock.

It's like pulling teeth, and is making it harder to enjoy doing these things outside of work.

My boss has also learned not to set firm deadlines, so I set them myself and then get frustrated that I have to do the rest of my job and can't just hunker down and hyperfocus, and that my pace slows dramatically when I fall out of hyperfocus and have to work on it anyway.

Every time someone suggests I should turn my hobbies into an actual job or side hustle, I think of all the ruined/wasted supplies and times I've given up on projects or procrastinated for years, and the times where I only finished something last minute by working beyond exhaustion on one hour's sleep every day for a week and collapsed afterwards.

No, I will not sell my cosplay/plants/writing/cooking; my customers would be baffled and/or justifiably angry, possibly disappointed, and probably mostly owed refunds.

I would suck at communicating the whole time and also procrastinate about it and issuing refunds, and then panic when people got mad and ignore them harder.

Why the fuck would I do that to random strangers or myself?