[ SECRET POST #5928 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5928 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[Far Cry]



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[Starry Love]



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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 11 secrets from Secret Submission Post #848.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

The biggest problem with the way your secret was phrased is that it's very patronizing and paternalistic. The person who commented sarcastically, "I'm not like the other girls, I can think critically" encapsulated your tone in a nutshell perfectly.

If you'd said flat out that you like the same things and were wondering about it, there might have been a very different response. But you came off like a judgmental outsider looking down on "young women" as if they're all naive blank slate sponges (remember, we have no idea of any poster's age or gender if they don't say so) who are incapable of thinking critically - and assuming they don't.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

OP
I see that now, and I do apologize for that. I'm not the best at dissecting my thoughts. I can project and go off on my thoughts without realizing that I'm doing it. And I do apologize that I do that, really trying to work on it.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

NA - I just want to say I think it's very cool of you to have taken such a weight of negative responses and listened to them and allowed them to have an impact, and not just gotten defensive and doubled down hard and dug your heels in.

"Double down and dig my heels in" is absolutely my instinctive response to large volumes of criticism being directed my way, and it ends up taking me way longer to figure out where I actually want to plant my feet because of it.

So honestly, good for you anon. I respect your genuine desire to discuss these things, and you seem like someone I would probably enjoy discussing them with, if I met you in the wild. :P