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⌈ Secret Post #6136 ⌋

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Re: Ask for advice

[(Anonymous)]

I might move cities. My spouse might get a job in the career they've been training for for years. I'll have to give up my job where I've dug in like a tic. I'm not actually happy at my current job, but I'm used to it. There are jobs available in this new city that could work for me, I'd just have to grow and work hard and I'm spooked. Interviews and applying was awful and I'm not looking forward to it.

There are cute houses and interesting things to do in this city.

But the weather seems *rough*

But I'm a homebody anyway. And I'd be an hour closer to my in-laws. And not that much further away from many friends. And only two hours further away from my own family.

I just... hmm. I'm very scared of giving up the security even though we'd be better off in the long term in a new situation.

So my ask: how do you move cities as an adult? It's easy to do when you're a kid and your world revolves around school, but I don't know how to do that as an adult.

Re: Ask for advice

[(Anonymous)]

Twenty years ago, I just... did it. I was disabled and didn't have to find a job. My parents moved too, so it wasn't as isolating as it could have been. I joined every society that looked relevant, and made three good friends straight away in a group for my disability, which had just started up. I volunteered in a women's group, and made another good friend there (that's two of the three people I call my ~real~ sisters.) I availed myself of the social services that were available to me. And I just kept going as long as I could. I'm much less mobile now. But I made enough social connections in those first few years to tide me over and help me settle in.

I'm assuming you have job skills enough that you can get something, anything, that will bring in money and make you independent should the worst happen in your partnership (I know, worst case scenario. It happened to me.) I hope you can drive, that you've got a car, and that there is public transport worth the name, if you can't. But basically, be prepared to stand on your own two feet, which you should be willing and able to do anyway, no matter where you live.

Make sure to be closely involved in all the nitty-gritty of finding and signing up for a place to live.

Keep up your social connections, make new ones, and good luck! It could be a great new chapter in your life, it could be meh. It could be awful - but here's hoping not. But whatever happens, you'll learn a huge amount about yourself and about life skills.

Re: Ask for advice

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you. I needed that.

I kept poking and a community College in New City has a program I want to study. No matter where I go I bet I can find a similar one. Even if we stay I'm going to try and join.