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⌈ Secret Post #6184 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I wish I understood this better. I guess it's hard for me to "get" someone with an active libido not being attracted to a beautiful (and other ideals...nice, funny, whatever) person who's attracted to them. I'm not asexual, but I'm extremely picky about the people I actually have sex with/desire.

Demisexuality makes some sense to me. It's just hard to comprehend never being sexually attracted to anyone ever.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

I read one person describing it like body maintenence or upkeep. So there's no real mental component but the body has all the programing and it still physically feels good.

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NAYRT

That's what it feels like for me. Regularly, like clock work, the hormones cycle around and it's something else to take care of. Like it's time to get a wax or teeth cleaning, except it feels nicer.

[philstar22]

To me that would be more like aromantic rather than asexual? I guess I don't really understand the terms. But I would think aromantic would be not interested in romance whereas asexual would be not interested in sex.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Aces can absolutely be interested in sex. Sex can be decoupled not only from romance but from attraction as well.

[philstar22]

Ah, okay. So then what term would you use for someone who was interested in sex but not romance/relationships?

[(Anonymous)]

DA but as far as I understand it that would be aromantic. You can be an aromantic asexual or aromantic sexual person.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

What anon above me said. You can be both aromantic and asexual.

Aro - is attracted to people sexually, not interested in relationships

Ace - not attracted to people sexually, is interested in relationship (and, depending on the individual, some will be fine having sex in a relationship)

Aroace - not attracted to people for sex or relationships

Demiace - is attracted to one person after forms have been filled out in triplicate and then sacrificed on the Gavle goat when it is burned down

[(Anonymous)]

Aromantic isn't interested in romance. Asexual does not feel sexual attraction but can feel romantic feelings or want a romantic relationship.

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt
What is romance?

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Ardent (displaying or characterized by strong enthusiasm or devotion; fervent.) emotional attachment or involvement between people; love.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt. So asexual people can't feel attachement to others, like family etc? I think your definition is wrong. That's sociopat you describing.

I ask because all the aromantic folk I met are full of bullshit and unable to articulate what it is.

[(Anonymous)]

that's.... that's not what that says...???

a) you asked about romance. asexual people are not aromantic and
b) notice that it doesn't say romance is "attachment". it is ARDENT EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT.

so you not only reduced fervent devotion to "attachment" you also returned to talking about asexuals when the topic was aromantics.

also, just because someone can't articulate something that doesn't mean they're full of shit. i hope you're never allowed near mentally handicapped people.

[(Anonymous)]

It's kinda like, sometimes I feel like getting off, but I've never looked at someone and been "I want them in specific to get me off". If that makes any sense. I don't actually know what sexual attraction feels like. Sex is just an activity I can do. With my partner or otherwise.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel more or less the same way. In my head, I compare it to food, like say ice cream or something. We live in a world where almost everyone *craves* ice cream to greater or lesser degrees, and simply cannot understand someone who doesn't function the same way. I think it's nice but never *crave* it, I can live happily without it but don't mind eating it. I just never look at an ice-cream place, see a flavour and think 'ooooh, I could just do with a scoop of that!'.

It's not an exact analogy of course!

[(Anonymous)]

Idk, back before I knew the term asexual, I used to describe looking at attractive people as like looking at caryatids (those support pillars shaped like people in ancient Greek temples.)

I'm no Pygmalion, and I like to look, but I wouldn't want to fuck a person any more than I'd want to fuck a statue of a hot person.

And my libido used to be way, way higher back in my teens and especially early 20s, where I'd be distractingly turned on and masturbate a lot. Now I'm middle aged and mostly my body is like "eh whatever."

But even at my horniest I just never actually wanted to have sex with anyone. And I wasn't raised religious or sexually abused or anything, my libido just wasn't aimed at anyone in particular, ever.