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⌈ Secret Post #6224 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I personally think that what we call emotional maturity is in large part the brain hardening up post 25. Most of my colleagues are in their early 20s and I just hit 35 (I have a very young face, so they don't often realize how large the gap is). The big difference I've noticed is how much chiller I seem to be, and I don't think it's life experience. Plenty of them have had more life experience, I've been practically a shut-in for years. But for example, my job has some arbitrary write-ups. I was the first to get one (stupid reason but not worth fighting) and was very upset for the rest of the day. By the next day I was like, well that was shit, let's move on. And at the time I remembered how if this had happened to me at age 21, I would be sobbing my eyes out for a whole weekend at least. Now? It's like my feelings can be hurt but there's a hardy shield of DGAF around them that absorbs most of the blow.

Two more of my colleagues that I know of have gotten write-ups in the months since (both under 25) and they LOST THEIR SHIT. One of them yelled at the supervisor and got fired. I had to talk the other one off an existential ledge. I am so glad my brain isn't so soft and vulnerable anymore.

[(Anonymous)]

This is how I am as well, I just view it that my emotions and brain has been around the block enough that I can let certain things slide off. Some things will weigh more(lost my auntie last year, that hurt like a bitch), but smaller stuff like younger work colleagues having pissing matches with one another? Dude I'm 30 I don't care about that high-school shit anymore, leave me alone to do my job, lmao.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes and no - it's much easier to be 'emotionally hardened' when you've had more experiences and realize that this too, like everything else, shall pass, and that there's a ton of world out there. This may not apply to people who are practically shut-ins but is generally true for most people and is based on experience and reality-based observations, not necessarily emotional flareups or brain chemistry going wild or anything.

A 30 year old has seen at least 1.5x more 'go past' them than a 20 year old - and more like 2x since a lot of early childhood memories get lost and/or aren't processed the same way. Experiencing time itself go forward and life go on is lived knowledge, not feelings, that you can't really directly transfer from person to person.

[(Anonymous)]

As someone over 50, my give-a-damn is REALLY broken. I thought I DGAF when I was 30, but now the field is so barren Farm Aid is holding a concert for it.

(Anyway, if you got that reference, you might be old as dirt too!) And if you're older than I am, sorry. You're not old!

[(Anonymous)]

nearing 50 so that's a spot on A+ reference you got there. also, same.