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[ SECRET POST #6310 ]

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But I was informed earlier that you can just get another job. No one else feels this way, so this is just a personal problem with you. You should just quit everything and upend your life and you'll feel better. You should just be positive and stop looking at all the things going wrong, that's being bleak and hopeless. It's your choices that made you this way, not any kind of systemic problem with our laws and culture. Saying that you're tired is fighting words.

(For real though, all of this is such bullshit. Not enough workers cause management refuses to hire anymore, not enough pay, not enough hours in the day, etc etc. I feel you, man.)

You didn’t say you felt that way, you said everyone feels that way. And you’re still crying days later that it was pointed out to you that it wasn’t your place to speak for everyone and how you feel isn’t the norm. There’s loads of data backing that up and it’s been a regular feature in the news for at least four years at this point.

Hush. Adults are talking here.

Interestingly enough, under 30s are the age group that stay with their jobs or careers that make them miserable. Seasoned adults are quick to walk away from a toxic work environment because they’re old enough to know how short life is.

Up to a certain point, that's true. But the longer an over 30 has been at a job (presumably, one that was not toxic to start out with), the less likely that is. Benefits are accrued with time, after all, and no one wants to suddenly be back at 2 weeks paid vacation and weekly check-ins with the boss after years of the good stuff. Also, interestingly enough, over 30s are less likely to want to work remote full-time, as they found out during the darker days of the pandemic. Being able to leave work at work and keep home a separate, non-work-related place is a significant part of work-life balance to these folks, which in this housing market means any new job/career needs to be commutable.

I need to do some digging to find it but there was a fascinating article last year about how job switching contributed to the soaring real estate values. I can’t remember numbers but basically a lot of people were selling high and moving to lower cost of living areas and then finding a job within a 15 minute commute that would cover the bills. It was notable because previously moves were dictated by the job and now it’s flipping the opposite direction.
As for benefits, places that permit and accept transferable benefit plans have a much easier time finding new employees. Plenty of over 40s and even over 50s are changing it just jobs but their entire career. That’s always happened to some extent but was typically part of an midlife crisis. Now it’s happening in greater numbers and is tied to second adolescence.

And the pandemic kinda kickstarted (or sped up?) rapid job growth in local government. I think that was in another article though from the tail end of the pandemic. A lot of the food service and retail employees that seemingly disappeared are enjoying strong, steady salaries with benefits that most didn’t dare to dream of before.

I'm 50 and we were told around college age that we should be thinking about changing careers every FIVE YEARS.

This is not new!

"Also, interestingly enough, over 30s are less likely to want to work remote full-time, as they found out during the darker days of the pandemic."

Source? Because everyone I know who is over 30 who went remote during the pandemic won't even consider non-remote jobs anymore. They all love it much better than having to commute.

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I recently read the same thing AYRT did. I think the divide was if they had kids or not. Those with kids tend to prefer the compartmentalization of going to the office and those without kids are more likely prefer working remotely.

I could see that, yeah. None of my friends have kids so that's probably why they aren't interested in going back to the office.

Check any written article in the last 4 years about working parents. And maybe don’t “source?” people if yours is “people I talk to,” Cliffie.

I know plenty of working parents who aren't interested in going back to the office so hearing that apparently a lot of people do want to comes as a surprise to me too. In fact, the specific reason they've given me for not wanting to go back to the office is the chance to have more time around their kids.

Maybe it's an older parents versus younger parents thing?

That’s incredibly ironic coming from someone who has just thrown a fit like a toddler. Like goddamn anon, I’m almost embarrassed at how pathetic you’re being. Almost.

It's almost like being overworked and underpaid and horribly stressed makes people physically, mentally, and emotionally unwell....

But def not a societal problem. No siree.

You are amazingly quick to blame everything but yourself. Own your own godamn actions, anon! You are being a whiny child and ignoring the fact that you just should have spoken in a personal tone and nobody would have had a problem, yet you continue to blame "society" and every other anon under the sun. Wake up to the fact that you are a big part of the problem here.

*slow blinks* it…it isn’t a societal problem though. That’s exactly what everyone has been telling you. Because what you’re experiencing isn’t normal.

But I think everyone is right and the problem is you.

What a useless way to try and defend your actions and behaviour. Do you think you have the monopoly of mental health issues or something? You’re the only one who has bad days? I live with depression, some weeks it kicks my ass and I don’t want to get up for anything. I still get up, do my job, and generally exist even when I don’t feel like I want to because if I give into my negative thoughts and wants I do get worse and it all feeds into a hopeless feedback loop.

Part of living with mental illness is actively doing things to help and not just wallowing and throwing myself a pity party. I have to help myself in order to get better and that means doing things I don’t like so I can like things again. Because when I’m not in a depression spiral I do actually enjoy life and my job. It’s not meant to feel bleak and hopeless all the time and if it does you need to talk to a professional. Venting at a bunch of strangers online won’t help anything.

Adults take responsibility for themselves and do things like find better jobs.

Just keep pushing that tongue deeper. I'm sure the bosses will reward you.

Misfire? AYRT is one of the 62% of working American adults who happily found a new job or career in the last five years that gives better work/life balance.

LOL +1

Wow, carrying a grudge over multiple posts? I'm starting to see why it may be difficult for you to find a job. Work on reading comprehension and maturity first, then maybe you can join the grown up table.

Y'all are the ones who decided that saying working sucked was worth dogpiling on. You'll realize eventually that senpai will never notice you and you too will be tired.

None of us need senpai to notice us because we're capable of leaving jobs that make us miserable, unlike you.

You still haven’t figured out that the reason you got dog piled is that you decided your personal experience is universal. That’s always gonna get a negative response but in this case your personal experience is in the well documented minority. It’s been pointed out to you many times without you ever acknowledging your role in the wank nor any of the validation or commiseration you received. Instead you’ve carried it over to another post days later and are actively being an asshole to people.

It’s you, anon. You’re the problem at your job. And you’ll be the problem at every job so you’re right, there’s no point trying to change.

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