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[ SECRET POST #6321 ]

⌈ Secret Post #6321 ⌋

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[Lark Rise to Candleford]

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06. [WARNING for discussion of rape]

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[Five Nights at Freddy's]

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THIS. Give me fics with the trans guy pegging his partner, male or female!

So you think what makes a man is having a dick, and what makes a woman is having a vagina?

DA

Do all trans men want to get fucked in their front holes? If you want to fuck someone with something, be it your own dick or another one, does that make you not a trans man?

No, that doesn't make someone not a trans man. But the idea that being a man *requires* having a penis and/or penetrating someone with a penis is cissexist.

nayrt

You are being really disingenuous in this thread, if you're the same person replying all over it. Like honestly are you a troll? Saying "it's okay for trans guys to bottom" is almost a complete non sequitur to people saying they don't like common tropes in ftm fic and that most ftm fic is ftm bottom.

There's a big difference between saying, "this trope isn't my thing" and saying, "when a trans guy bottoms, it's actually hetero sex in disguise." It's the latter that I took issue with, and it's the anon who made that argument that I've been primarily engaged with.

It's amazing how you keep persistently ignoring that this is about very pervasive and potentially questionable tropes in fanfic, not about real life.

Yes, it's fanfic, not real life. But sometimes, when people question tropes in fanfic, they bring their real life attitudes into it. Anon above has consistently argued, first, that to fuck is to penetrate, and that to get fucked is to be penetrated, linking penetrating directly to active participation in sex and getting penetrated to passive participation; and second, that in order to fully express their manhood, a trans man must penetrate their partner. Even *if* it's the case that there are people writing these pics who feel similarly (which I will certainly grant you could be true), it doesn't change the fact that anon *also* has an essentialist idea of what it means to be a man or woman, an idea that seems to require trans men having sex in a particular way in order to not be women.

Except they absolutely did not say that all trans male characters only ever should be portrayed as the penetrating partner. They just criticised that trans male characters in fanfic are ONLY EVER the penetrated (in their vagina) partner.

And then put forth the position that to fuck is to penetrate, which I fundamentally disagree with on the grounds that it's sexist.

Okay, so you then derailed the entire argument into a discussion about language and how to define fucking. How do you expect to have a conversation about SHIPPING FIC then? With all due respect, this is a sensitive topic that a lot of people find triggering, and it's possible it brought up some stuff for you that is hard to deal with. You sound like you're hella misinterpreting people and taking their words in the worst way possible, if you're not actually a troll, and I'm not sure what you're getting out of this argument. I was trying to engage for a bit but now I'm just confused. Like, what was with the part where you reply to someone who was simply saying they want to see more strap on fic and accuse them of saying essentialist stuff when they actually never mentioned it? It's okay to take a step back, and let it go that people feel different than you about sexuality and erotic fiction.

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Their entire position is that a trans man needs to have a dick and be penetrating! That's the issue, not the strap on itself!

I feel like if an MRA waltzed in and said, "I feel like fics about women being dominant are M/M slash fics in disguise, because it's clearly applying a male way of being to a woman. Women are submissive, and I'd like more fic showing that," you'd all just be like, "welp, he's talking about fic, so there can't be any sexism here."

Oh wow. You assumed SO MUCH from the very first. No one said that trans men MUST have a dick and MUST be the one penetrating 100% of the time. The original post was literally complaining that 100% of trans men in their fandoms NEVER have dicks and NEVER penetrate and wouldn't it be nice if they did some of the time?

You interpreted that as "Trans men must always" which is objectively not what was said. I hope you're hungry with all that egg on your face.

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(Anonymous) - 2024-04-28 20:32 (UTC) - Expand

In your example, you would be describing a world in which femsub erotica is extremely rare, which is not the world we live in.

This conversation is to do with the abundance of PIV ftm bottom fics, where the characterization often emphasizes the trans character's submission and vulnerability, and may focus heavily on his femininity as well as on his trans body parts. This is a kink that a lot of people are into, including many trans guys. Many people also find the trope triggering because of its closeness to real life transphobia towards ftms. That taboo element is also part of why people are drawn to it, of course. It's also why it draws criticisms and makes many readers uncomfortable to see the huge trend for these fics.

A better example to fit this thread than what you said would be someone defending femsub fanfic, despite it being extremely common and often having sexist overtones, and insisting that it can't actually be sexist or criticized for the tropes used because real life women sometimes choose to submit. This is essentially what you're doing here.

Do you think sexual acts have no social connotations in the world we currently live in? Lol what?

You can acknowledge this, but not that the way we frame sexual acts and the sort of sex we think is appropriate for certain individuals has social connotations?

Not talking about trans guys actually bottoming with their cis boyfriends in real life. Talking about made up trans guys having made up sex that was described with deliberate word choices, characterization choices and focuses in fanfiction on the internet. hth

Talking about an anon who links manhood to using some sort of penetrating implement on their partner. Hth.

Lol! The discussion was about slash fanfiction tropes hun. Not about your personal empowering definition of fucking.

It's not my "personal empowering definition of fucking." It's the definition of anyone who isn't a raging sexist.

Nah, it's just you, fam.

Brb, gotta open up grindr and tell everybody to stop messaging me saying they're a bottom :/

Stop ignoring that we all talking about fanfics and tropes here.
Trans guys can fuck or not fuck in any way they want. They are not less guys for preferring PIV sex. But anon was talking about fancic and common tropes.
Woman isn't less of a woman or a feminist if she wears heavy make up. But people still can and should criticize how in media women look the same.
Yes, it's sus that a lot of authors make trans characters just to fuck some pussy. And maybe individual authors aren't bad or sexist etc and there is nothing wrong with a kink but people allowed to be wary and allowed to dislike the trope

You can see my response to this point to other anon above.

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