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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

But what is daddy kink without "daddy"? Genuinely, I'm curious what attracts you to daddy kink when "daddy" squicks you. (not trying to be a dick!)

[philstar22]

Came here to say this. You can't have one side of the kink without the other. If you are okay with one side, why not the other? This is like the people who are totally cool with submissive fantasies but think dominant fantasies are bad.

[(Anonymous)]

Thread OP

I don't think I agree with that logic. I just dislike this particular word used in a sexual context - would you say that the only aspect of daddy kink is that one person is called "daddy" and absolutely nothing else?

To me, that logic would also imply that there's no BDSM unless the dominant is called "master".

[philstar22]

I mean, daddy/baby kink squicks me. But that would be both sides. It is just weird to me to be okay with one side but not the other. If you want one side to happen, the other side does.

[(Anonymous)]

Ayrt

I don't particularly want either side to happen, to be clear. I'm not really into daddy kink, due to the obvious reason. But when I come across it untagged I'm fine with it in the same way I would be fine with untagged pegging - not something I'm particularly into, but not something that bothers me. Until the word "daddy" is used unironically by either party.

[(Anonymous)]

I mean BDSM doesn't have the word "master" in it anywhere. Excluding that from BDSM is super easy.

On the flip side, "daddy kink" literally has the word daddy in it. That's like saying you don't like slave kink where someone is a slave. That's the point. That's the kink.

If your kink is 'an older and more powerful/dominant male partner caring for a younger partner'... that isn't daddy kink if he's literally not a daddy, being called daddy, or being considered a metaphorical daddy. That's just having a preference for a certain kind of dom/sub relationship (arguably an extremely common heteronormative one), and other people who share the kink for older dominant men but are not into daddy kink would look at you weird if you told them they're into daddy kink. Because they aren't.

[(Anonymous)]

Ayrt

I guess I don't really see the difference. Or rather, I don't see how the usage of one specific word can make or break a kink.

If there are two scenes that are exactly the same in every way, except in one the word "daddy" is used and in the other the daddy's name instead, the first is daddy kink and the other isn't? What's the second scene then? What particular kind of dom/sub kink is it, since it cannot be daddy kink anymore, despite being literally the same as the first scene in every way, just because one word isn't used?

(I wouldn't conflate kink with relationships personally, but that's a different topic.)

That's like saying you don't like slave kink where someone is a slave. That's the point. That's the kink.

Well, no, I'd say it's more like slave kink where the word "slave" isn't used. Surely there are other aspects of slave kink aside from the usage of this specific word? Specific emotional beats or physical actions?

if he's literally not a daddy, being called daddy, or being considered a metaphorical daddy.

See, even you think being called a daddy isn't the only criteria. If the character is literally or metaphorically consider a daddy, I'm personally fine with daddy kink!

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, this. All daddy kink is a subset of 'an older and more powerful/dominant male partner caring for a younger partner' kink, but not all 'an older and more powerful/dominant male partner caring for a younger partner' is daddy kink. They're two different things.

[(Anonymous)]

+100000

[nanslice]

Exactly this.

[(Anonymous)]

The taking care/spoiling the partner aspect is fine with me, which seems to be a part of daddy kink. There also seems to be an element of innocence roleplay that goes with it that I'm also fine with.

I'm not really into it because of my aversion to the use of "daddy" unironically, tbh, so my experience with it is limited.

[(Anonymous)]

Being into the father figure without literally calling them "daddy" during sex? Like, if you're reading a Buffy/Giles fic, arguably that's daddy kink, but she doesn't have to call him that for it to count as the kink.

[(Anonymous)]

I totally disagree. Buffy/Giles is a mentor/mentee dynamic. It is literally not daddy kink unless Buffy calls Giles daddy, or at the very least thinks of him as daddy/wants to call him daddy.