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Oof, yeah. That would make me a little uncomfortable, but it's not uncommon. Mainstream culture has a thing about motherhood and pregnant women, and for many women, that will be the most positive attention, status and care they've received their whole life up until that point. It's no wonder it makes such an impact, but that's sad.

It reminds me of women whose entire identities revolve around being a mother, so when their kids grow up and leave the nest they go a little nuts trying to claw them back.* They feel like they don't have anything else, they don't have any other life than being a mom and when that takes the back burner because your kids don't require hands-on parenting anymore, it's identity crisis time.

* Also see: crazy mother in laws who are jealous of the women their sons marry, possessive over stuff like who hosts holiday dinners, who's the better cook, grandbabies, etc.

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* Also see: crazy mother in laws who are jealous of the women their sons marry, possessive over stuff like who hosts holiday dinners, who's the better cook, grandbabies, etc.

oh god, there are stories in the JUSTNOMIL subreddit that I will never scrub from my brain.

nayrt but I was thinking of that subreddit! My own MIL woes aren't nearly as dramatic or extreme, but... I see this pattern. My MIL wasn't a particularly nurturing mother, she spent most of my partner's childhood more interested in dating than looking after her kid. She is and was a terrible cook. She only wanted to spend time with her child if she didn't have anything more interesting to do or a man to chase. But if you asked her, she was sooooo into being a mother and she loved her little boy oh so much! I think she'd be one of those Facebook "boy mom!" types if that had been a thing back then.

So when I started dating him, the little offhand comments started up. Oh gosh, he spends so much time with me and not her, isn't that funny? Oh, your cooking is so good, here let me try to compete by making a Mom of the Year type meal and then getting upset when people eat it more out of out of politeness than enjoyment.

We're not having kids, she doesn't have the skills to host any holiday dinners and I don't put up with her bullshit and neither does my partner. She FAFOed a few years ago by throwing a tantrum about how I was late wishing her happy birthday and now she doesn't get even a text from me, including updates on her baby boy - who of course, doesn't bother to keep in touch with her at all.

oh god, there are stories in the JUSTNOMIL subreddit that I will never scrub from my brain.

Just keep in mind that half of those stories are made up, and that at least one of the mods is herself a raging narcissist. She's the main reason abusive mothers are not allowed to be questioned on r/breakingmom.

Which mod are you referring to? I was glad when madpiratebippy was no longer a mod, quite frankly. I thought that if her stories weren't embellished, then she seemed a little too keen for all the attention she got for them. When you get to the point where you're planning to write a book of MIL tales for your drama-starved audience on reddit, your life has gone sadly awry, IMO.

I also noticed her breaking rules on that subreddit, reported it, and her comments were never deleted like they would've been if a non-mod or less popular user had made them. The moderation on that sub is a hot mess.

Well, wouldn't you know, I looked at the subs, because I couldn't recall her exact name off the top of my head, I just knew it started with "diet;" and she doesn't appear to be a mod on either of them anymore. So, unless she's still modding under another name, perhaps she's gone.

I remember that username, but that's about it. That subreddit has had a lot of turnover re: moderators over the past few years.

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I remembered! It was dietotaku! And it looks like that account is no longer active on reddit.

I'm still suspicious of the sub, but I'm glad that she's no longer around.

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