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⌈ Secret Post #6481 ⌋

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"A lot of moms will not tell their husbands what they want or need. They expect him to just know, and get very upset when it turns out that he doesn't."

This one gets me. Woof, ok.

In my own life I have recently gotten serious about our standards of house keeping. The two roommates who do zero chores are getting kicked out and my husband who does 0.25 a chore is getting kicked into gear. His most basic comment was "I don't realize when something needs to be done" and/or "Having someone tell me when something needs to be done really helps me" and I about bit through my fingers like they were carrots. I shouldn't have to tell him when to clean the toilet, he should 1) look at the toilet 2) see that it isn't clean 3) clean it. This isn't mind reading, because the answer is not in my mind. It's on the porcelain. I compromised with myself by signing him up for the same cleaning-reminder app I use so the APP could tell him to clean the toilet every week. Yes, I had to tell the app to tell him to clean, but whatever. Baby steps.

In media, especially in comedy clips on facebook, I see the "Wife decoder" joke. But it's always something fucking obvious like ::saddest look you've ever seen in your life:: "It's nothing honey" --> "I'm sad you forgot my birthday" and ::folds laundry aggressively:: "I hope you have a lot of fun golfing all weekend" --> "I want your help with laundry and also to spend time with you." And, like, I know it's exaggerated for a joke but J.F.C. the comments that come after. If you cannot understand the absolute basics of human existence you should be legally ineligible from entering into a contract like marriage.

And like? Are you like this everywhere else? Do you need someone to remind you of deadlines and procedures all day at work? Do you need someone to remind you to fill up on gas when you're getting low? To turn on your windshield wipers when it rains? To show up at the commuter train before it leaves? To bring the business presentation to the big business meeting? THEN WHY CAN"T YOU LOAD A DISHWASHER OR REMEMBER A BIRTHDAY <3

In short. To be brief. In closing. Whenever a man says he "Isn't a mind reader" I have to assume he thinks life isn't his responsibility. He expects information to be processed and extruded by someone else. When this doesn't happen he assumes that the information extruder is broken, rather than that it is his responsibility to be aware of the world around him.

(And yes, not all men/women. Gomez Adams would NEVER)