[ SECRET POST #6519 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6519 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I can kinda get the first part, it's just preferring the dynamic of a ship to set one way then stay that way, yeah?

The second part... well. The whole "dudes in m/m have to switch because otherwise it's somehow unfair" has always been a womenwritingmen thing.

[(Anonymous)]

I am a woman who writes m/m and I don't think I've ever written anything about switching being fair (though I haven't written much switching), but I could absolutely see thoughts or a conversation happening about it being fair if both characters liked both topping and bottoming, but really like the same one over the other or if they really liked doing both. And having witnessed some strangely intense and drawn-out conversations among men about fairness in regard to splitting food, going first in a game, who gets shotgun, the rules of the silly jumping game they just made up, etc., I believe some men really do care about fairness and would 100% have this type of conversation (I think some of them would even make a chart).

[(Anonymous)]

Sure, and some married couples keep separate accounts and split the bill when they go out to dinner. Nothing wrong with doing that.

But saying "it's unfair not to" or "this is the only fair way to do it" is not understanding how people work. Some couples do that because they prefer that. Some couples prefer not to bother with it. It isn't about whether one is more fair than the other.

[ariakas]

I think you're both interpreting this secret differently: the author making a moral/ethical judgment applicable to all couples vs the author imagining that specific characters would think that is the "fair" way to do it, for them.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe, but if the secret says "the author made them do it for fairness" I'm reading it as the principle of the thing, since it's not "the characters just preferred it that way."

[ariakas]

That's how I read it too tbh.