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⌈ Secret Post #6531 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

As an adult, I was terrorized and bullied by a child.

Not my child but a child someone I'm related to had this child.

Honestly, the child was not blameless but I have always been highly aware that the parents took on the bulk of the responsibility for their child's behavior.

Honestly, a shitty child who actively chooses to be cruel, harmful, selfish, and/or vindictive has a reason to act the ways they do.

IME it's a mix of the child being neglected on some level (parents did not give enough positive attention to child as well as not holding the child responsible and properly disciplining them when the child misbehaves), and the child projecting their pains onto people they know will not return the cruelty onto them (the child in question often bullied their sibling because the parents always blamed the sibling for any conflict between the two).

I have a lot of examples of the child doing cruel things or saying cruel things and the parents response was to downplay the event and/or blame the other person.

I completely get that there are manipulative and cruel children out there who get little sympathy from me, but IME the majority of my anger and frustration is towards the parents.

If the child sees that their actions are dismissed with excuses or shrugs, they will begin to consciously feel that they are above others and anyone who doesn't like them is simply a hater/jealous. Subconsciously, they will feel unlovable and actively do things to hurt people around them and feel shame that they are a bad person and they deserve to be abandoned by people who seemed to have cared about them.

I hope that this child grows up to confront their pains, but I don't know if they ever will.

TL;DR - shitty kids are real but to be realistic you have to be aware that they were not simply born evil but majority of the time, there are a lot of family/home life stuff going on that shapes the child's worldview and the way they choose to see others