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fandomsecrets2024-12-04 07:19 pm
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[ SECRET POST #6543 ]
⌈ Secret Post #6543 ⌋
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Re: Physical traits that you don't trust
And lets be totally real, if I said "I dont like [X physical feature commonly but not exclusively tied to a specific race]" you fucking KNOW how that would be responded to...
Re: Physical traits that you don't trust
(Anonymous) 2024-12-05 02:52 pm (UTC)(link)Re: Physical traits that you don't trust
I do not troll. I do not say offensive shit. But people act like I do. What is the solution to this? Ask you to point out the last offensive thing I said, and when you point to either an obvious joke, or an opinion I genuinely hold just accept that I have the wrong opinions / wrong sense of humour and that alone makes me a troll? and then just change to suit you? To prove to you that I'm not a troll? Knowing it wont work because probably the last thing I said to offend you personally was 6 years ago and you simply aren't willing to update your mental picture of me? No, that is not a solution to the problem.
To simple NOT say anything that could be offensive? To anyone? Not only not possible, it's not going to work, because the absence of saying trollish things is not noticed. Unless you point out the absence and then you get jerkoffs coming out like "What do you want a medal"? that strike you as a solution?
To just ignore the people who think I'm a troll and do what makes me happy? crack my jokes, and let the sad sacks run to case every 20 mins trying to have me banned? Sure, I can do that. That works best for me. Only then I have people crying that I am a cancer on the community. Which makes me feel a little guilty. For doing the only workable solution to people thinking I'm a troll. It's the best solution for me, I can ignore a bit of guilt. I can probably just tell myself they're not really upset, they're just doing stupid manipulation tactics because controlling people on the internet get's them hard. But I'm trying very hard to NOT assume people are selfish evil creatures who feed on making other people miserable.
So go on. I present you with a problem. People think you're a troll. People accuse you of making their life worse by showing up. People think you say offensive things to troll, but you can't remember the last time you did ANYTHING like that. What do you do?
Yield to them, do only what the random anon consensus says you must do, and knowing it wont make a bit of difference?
Defend your self and point out that if you were a troll you'd have been trolling *here*, knowing that this will get a "What do you want, a medal" response as you try to prove a negative.
DONT defend yourself just let the fact that you don't troll stand on its own, knowing THAT wont work because people don't notice when you DON'T say anything.
Or ignore peoples complaints, write them off as evil psychotic shits not worth listening to or caring about. Let the world view of "People are just terrible, fuck em" persist and go about your day only enduring the odd pang of guilt because "What if the version of you that exists in their head really IS making them unhappy"?
What do YOU do?
Re: Physical traits that you don't trust
(Anonymous) 2024-12-05 06:53 pm (UTC)(link)Re: Physical traits that you don't trust
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(Anonymous) 2024-12-05 07:19 pm (UTC)(link)Re: Physical traits that you don't trust
(Anonymous) 2024-12-05 10:02 pm (UTC)(link)Followed up by a long ass rant about how you totally didn't do ANYTHING wrong and everyone just misunderstood you and your "jokes" and how everyone is just out to get you for no reason. In the subthread where you went full "woe is me, I can't say ANYTHING" based entirely on a hypothetical made up scenario that didn't actually happen yet just to possibly get a self fulfilling prophesy.
Nah, totally not a victim complex.
Re: Physical traits that you don't trust
(Anonymous) 2024-12-05 10:17 pm (UTC)(link)Re: Physical traits that you don't trust
And yes. I live in my own head. I know what I'm saying and why. If I am saying something to be funny, I know that was my intention. You putting that in quotes wont make me go "Holy shit, he's right! That wasn't a joke, I actually hate the finns."
If I know I'm saying "I have a problem with how people are interpreting me" I know that what I mean is "I would prefer it if people understood that what I am saying is what I mean" and not "woe is me, I can't say ANYTHING". You paraphrasing what I said in a way that lets you shit on a random internet stranger might help YOU feel more secure in your view of the stranger, but it's never going to break through my existing knowledge that what I said, and what I mean, has zero connection to the version of me that lives inside your head.
If everyone in the world thinks a thing I am saying is a troll, and I know it's not, then yes: You are all - definitionally - wrong. Is the fault that I have failed to make it clear that I am not a troll? Very possibly. How do you correct that? By doing what I have been doing all day with you lot. Most of which I am beginging to think was a waste of time because it's all bad faith shit on your end. You look at what I wrote about, then you look at what you read it as... Some misunderstandings might be on me. But all of that shit in your last comment was WILLFUL on your part. I am not a victim of your bad faith shit. It's not a victim complex because - regardless of what you feel about the version of me exists in your head: I do not FEEL victimized by this in /my/ head. I am not trying to make anyone think of be as ba victim. I am, however, dealing with people who prefer to be angry so they can feel better than random strangers and that is infuriating, but even THAT doesn't have to be my problem.