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My friend's SO had been weird with me. I feel like they don't like me, so for a couple months now I've tried my best to keep my distance from them when I do things with my friend. Today, I was annoyed when I was saying goodbye to my friends, I threw my arm out to wave goodbye to my friend's SO as I walked past them. They immediately coiled away and began saying they were sick as if I had been expecting a hug.
I wanted to shout at them, "Don't worry bitch, I wasn't looking for a fucking hug."

I know that they can feel whatever ways they do about me, but it still hurts my feelings when they act the ways they do around me.
It reminds me of all the times in my life I'd felt rejected or excluded, and it hurts me a lot. A childhood wound still in need of healing.

Hanging out in a group as a kid/teen and everyone partners up and I'm left as the odd one out because I'm nobody's favorite. =/

Oh god, that's a fucking mood. I'm sorry they're being weird to the point of rude. Does your friend have any idea?

Could you sometimes plan some fun things with your friend without SO being there? So you can enjoy time with your friend and politely ignore SO in other situations? Anyway, that sucks and I'm sorry you've had to find ways to deal with it :/

I hate loudmouthed and unappeasable LGBT people. I am one of those letters. I have lived my life quietly half in the closet and happily exploiting the cracks in the system. It has been a nice comfortable and happy life. This current generation just couldn't help running their mouths and constantly pushing. Now thanks to them the Right is real active in closing up those cracks and shining a light in everyone's closet. Thanks a lot activists and allies, you ruined my life. Thanks a fucking lot. You just cost me a lot of peace and quiet, and now have to spend a lot of money I don't have on stuff I used to get for free before you dragged all this attention onto us all. If you'd just shut up we would all have been fine.

They will never respect you and playing the respectability politics kills. We would never have been fine, this was coming regardless. They have been running for us no matter how reasonable we were. - signed, an LGBT elder

I didn't care about respect, just about being left alone and getting the stuff I wanted in life. And I had that until you ruined it. Also "an Elder". I had decades of being just fine until the latest loudmouths came along.

DA

Nah, dude. As another elder, they hate us as a group and were always looking for ways to get rid of us. You're playing into their hands right now.

You would not be spared if they could at all sus you out. You are basically saying you're fine with being legislated out of existence so long s you get yours and everyone not happy with your closet is a loudmouth. Fuck off. The Nazis will kill you no matter how much One Of The Good Ones you are. The only people who ruined it are the Republicans because they were going to do this regardless of how quiet or loud anyone was. Quit doing their job for them, they will only be happy when you become a good Christofascist follower or die. Preferably the latter. If you wanna roll over and accept that, then kindly shut the fuck up about people who want better than pretending to be straight most of the time.

Wow, for an older person you are ridiculously naive

Also I am saying as someone not from the west. We are fucking quite and half closeted here. And somehow people in power still come for us and for anyone they can pressure. So no, loud youth never was a problem

Just in general sick of increasingly feeling more unsafe. I escaped a narcissistically abusive household after decades in order to save my life and sanity, now stupid assholes have made it so I get to experience the same thing on a larger scale. I won't further elaborate because I would need to move this to the thread at the bottom. But I'm angry. Because I'm unsafe again. All my healing is disrupted. Back in survival mode instead of finally finding ways to thrive, finding true connection with others. I'm angry and feel like I can't trust anyone. Which isn't helpful, considering this is the time to build community.

I'm angry and feel like I can't trust anyone. Which isn't helpful, considering this is the time to build community.

I'm hoping Belle (of the Ranch) covers this aspect of community building. I find myself also kind of scratching my head about how to handle community building moves at a time like this with a history of actively being booted out of spaces/groups designed for people who posses some of the same demographics I belong to (such as being an autistic woman).

DA

Same here, nonny. It's crazy-making.

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