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What is your BIGGEST fear around death?

Dying slowly and painfully in a way I am unable to do anything about

You pro-euthanasia? I mean I don't want to be any more grim than I have to be with this topic, but with the right situation, the right set of vaules, and the right access, you may never have to face your fear on this.

Oh, sure. If anything serious happens to me I’d move somewhere that allowed euthanasia. It’s just not legal where I live and I’m not confident anyone could surreptitiously do that for me. I sometimes imagine a sudden accident that puts me in that position and robs me of my ability to communicate. That’s where the fear lives these days. Not urgent, but persistent.

For me, the most terrible part of death is having to live with it.

I have no real fear of my own death other than the existential discomfort of trying to imagine what non-being might be like. And worrying about having to find out about coming it and seeing my loved ones sad. If I knew my death would be sudden, I could live very happily. Not even like instant sudden, but like a couple of hours. I can stand to a little pain before I go...

But what I can't stand, what terrifies me beyond all thought is losing people. I know, par for the course, part of life, all that. All the same, it's bullshit. It's bullshit that we have to deal with it. I don't accept it. I don't like it. It is my fondest hope that I go before anyone else I love. Because LOSS terrifies me so so much more than dying.

Not pain, not being forgotten, not the not knowing when and how and what will happen... I can accept that all as shit just happens. I don't accept loss.

I feel the same as you, I lost quite a few relatives in a short amount of time and it really changed my perspective on death. I've been trying to come to terms with mortality and loss as parts of life. It can be hard to deal with sometimes.

How it will affect my family. And dying slowly and/or painfully.

I feel this, The family side, I mean. There are always options for the other stuff, but there's no way to not hurt the people you love.

Anon above,

Yeah, that’s #2 for me

OK, feeling guilty now that my own pain rated higher than others’. But all my friends and relatives are so much older that it isn’t as frightening to me.

That thats it.

My mom just died a horrible slow decline to death via ALS and there is a (very small) chamce of it being a genetic thing. I don't fear death exactly, but I fear a disease like that that slowly robs you of your life/body while your mind remains intact until you die.

I'm sorry that happened to you

Just the idea of not existing, my brain not being aware anymore. Especially if it happens in my sleep and I don't know it is happening, I just never wake up.

This is my fear. Just the non-existence of everything. Even if there is an afterlife, will I remember anything? Will I be fully conscious until whatever I am is reborn or whatever happens? But then I'll forget anyway.

I don't want to go.

That makes me uncomfortable, trying to imagine non-being, but it doesnt scare me so much. You cant fail it, you cant mess it up, you just DO it, and even then, only maybe, there could be an afterlife. And if it IS non-being, all the greatest and most impressive consciousnesses in all of human history have all done it, it's... I dont know if I'm explaining this but its like... It'll be EASY, you know?

I have a friend with the same fear. For me that is the ultimate way to go. I kind of look forward to it. Just peacefully unaware and ceasing to exist.

Dying before my loved ones. I don’t want my pets to have to live without me, I’m a constant presence and caretaker. They will be so lonely if I die. And I don’t want my husband to have to deal with clearing out my stuff or making arrangements or just having to deal with the grief because he will be totally alone. No family, no friends. It will kill him. I’m better suited to coping in such a situation and also I just live him so much, any pain I could spare him, I would.

I get this, especially pets. The story of Hachiko fucking breaks me.

that I can't explain to my cat where I've gone.

I feel this. This is a heartbreaking concern.

Losing my mental faculties while remaining physically (relatively) healthy.

That when it happens when cease to be, in any form. Everything unique about us is gone. There is no heaven or hell, not even eternal darkness, we just no longer exist and the world keeps on trucking.

And it is terrifying, because it is true.

When I was suffering badly from depression, I used to take the nothing after death as a comfort. Now that my Depression is in remission, it terrifies me.

That it will either be unexpected that I can't even mourn what experiences I will never be able to have or that it will be a slow one in which I cannot stop death from coming and only having the grief of no longer being able to have certain experiences again because I might be too sick or immobile to do those things.

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