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Do you think people need goals and achievements to be truly happy?

Or do you think it's possible to be happy with just an experience, the journey matters more than the destination kind of thing?

Or is that simple contentment at a moment and not true happiness? That without a destination there's no journey to enjoy?

Is there a difference between contentment and happiness?

What are you seeking to be happy? A moment of triumph or a moment of tranquillity?

This a personal thing or are some people just fooling themselves?

And who has the nicer tits, Panam or Judy?

Edited 2025-04-01 22:25 (UTC)

It has to be the journey because my generation is never going to reach that ultimate goal of retirement and relaxation. I'll work until I die so might as well enjoy the journey.

Their tits look the same.

Yeah, but DO you? enjoy the journey, I mean. I see you making the best of it, but I don't know if making the best of it is the same as happy.

All other things being equal, you... Idk, won the lottery. You had every possible obligation of life met... what would you do to be happy? Would you seek out to achieve things, climb a mountain, write a novel, start a business, do a sport... Or would you just chill. Vibe. Relax at the beach, walk through a meadow, see things and experience a nicer softer life?

Oh, and you're nuts. Panam has nicer tits. If only because they don't have that horrible spider tattoo.

Edited 2025-04-01 22:37 (UTC)

If I won the lottery, I'd do the same shit just more of it. Occasionally going on a vacation but mostly hanging with family. I'm a homebody.

Re: On the nature of happiness

thewakokid - 2025-04-01 23:22 (UTC) - Expand

I was very ambitious as a teen and twenty-something. Until I was maybe...35?

Then I was just drawing a check to pay for my new mortgage because we bought a house that year.

I am retired now and I just want to chill, because I'm not going to set the world on fire at this point. My goals are like: work on my squats more, or learn how to make fancy cakes.

Re: On the nature of happiness

thewakokid - 2025-04-02 00:01 (UTC) - Expand

You ruined it with the last line. Gross.

That was the joke, yes. 90% deep philosophical ponderings on the nature of contentment in the human soul, and a crass joke about what my dick likes. Although thinking about it now, lust is a common part of the human experience, satisfying that lust is often both the journey AND the destination in a lot of peoples conception of a happy life. Plus boobs are good.

NAYRT
Yuck

This trash response is why people think you're a sexist troll.

Kind of depends on the situation, because the answer will be different if we're talking about life vs. a hike in the woods. With the latter, I'm okay with enjoying the journey - being outdoors, in the fresh air, peace and quiet with the only sounds being nature and wildlife, etc. There doesn't HAVE to be an awesome landmark or gorgeous view at the end, though it's a nice cherry on the sundae.

With life, I'm not going to enjoy the journey because my goal is financial comfort, good personal physical and mental health, a comfortable life, etc. I don't aim to be a millionaire (and that's good because it's def not going to happen) but I don't want to worry about being broke or homeless, either. I don't enjoy my job, it's a means to an end. So the journey is not contentment for me, the end result of a peaceful, comfortable life is the end goal.

Well, if you'll forgive the unsolicited critique, is sound like your view of lifetime goals is less on happiness and more on avoiding UNhappiness. Which is a great place to start, and not always an achievable goal right off the bat.

But I mean more like if you had all of your obligations taken care of, would you, in general terms, seek a life of advancement or a life of leisure? Could you be happy in a life where you had no goals left to fulfil? Could you be content to just live, or would you need something more.

It sounds like you're leaning more towards tranquillity as source of happiness, but I wonder if you see tranquillity as the absence of unhappiness, and if you had a life without worrying about being broke or homeless, what would you do then? Could you just enjoy it? or would you get bored?

Yes, you're right. I'm older, and while I'm sure this sounds pessimistic to some, it's clear to me that it's not likely that I will achieve very lofty goals. I've also been through some rough times with my health and finances and my current goals are to be ashealthy (as it is for me to be) and at the point where I don't have to ask myself, "Shit, if my car breaks down what will I do because I can't afford anything but a POS junker?" or "FML, is the HVAC dying? I have the money for repair, but not for replacement."

If I were financially comfortable where I didn't have to worry about my future, my retirement, etc. then I would pursue a life of leisure. The goal would be to be healthy and happy - and having enough money wouldn't guarantee those things, but it'd sure make them a hell of a lot more achievable. If I felt comfortable, and safe, and healthy, then I might consider pursuing some daydream type goals, such as writing and publishing a novel. Or finally planning a garden and keeping chickens, but I'd need help for that because I'm not physically capable of doing a lot of the heavy lifting stuff like building a tall fence and chicken coop, hauling compost, digging holes big enough for trees (I can manage smaller plants), etc. That's about as ambitious as I'd get.

I wouldn't get bored with waking up every day, having a cup of tea, perusing my e-mails and chatting with friends and family, having lunch, running boring errands like grocery shopping, walking my dog, writing/hobbies, then figuring out what to do for dinner (because I enjoy cooking) followed by some TV time, back to the computer and writing/hobbies, then a late bedtime. That sounds like heaven to me.

Re: On the nature of happiness

thewakokid - 2025-04-01 23:47 (UTC) - Expand

Re: On the nature of happiness

(Anonymous) - 2025-04-02 01:50 (UTC) - Expand

Thanks for the contribution, but someone already beat you to it. And with a better comment, I'm sorry to report.

I couldn't tell you about the last question as I don't know either character.

Honestly I think it is all personal for the rest, though. I think happiness and what it takes to be happy is very personal and different from person to person. For me it is less about goals than about making a difference, helping people, making the world a better place. But that's just me. It is different for everyone.

So you are what people call 'Driven'. You couldn't be happy for long without a challenge, a new cause. If you were suddenly transported to a hypothetical utopia where everyone is happy and there are no causes to be championed, could you lay back and enjoy the world? Or would you need to find SOMETHING?

Yes. but that something could be just making someone smile, making some cats and dogs happy. I don't need to save the world. I just need to be helpful.

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thewakokid - 2025-04-01 23:37 (UTC) - Expand

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Re: On the nature of happiness

thewakokid - 2025-04-01 23:55 (UTC) - Expand

I think sometimes you have to see experience as an achievement as well, like the forest isn't just the big trees, it's the whole ecosystem.
I don't know who Judy and Panam are, but I'm sure they both have nice tits, and appreciating them both without comparison is probably relevant to happiness as well.

That's very Zen. And it COULD be less about what drives us and more about our perception.

Been asking myself this a lot lately (er, minus the last part). I am coming to terms with how fucked up my childhood was and the limitations I have from that. Not gonna get into the whole thing here, but I come from a *really* messed up family background and my physical health is affected by that. On one level I'm lucky that I'm even alive and made it out of there. On another level... idk, what do I want to do? What do I care about? Who am I? Is this all there is?

I really want a peaceful life and to find contentment in the day to day. I feel a lot of anguish over there not really being... IDK, a big reward at the end of the suffering, something to console me for what I went through. It's just a bland life with everyday problems. Insurance phone calls. Getting rejected for jobs. Working shitty jobs. Getting sick. Flashbacks. Cleaning my apartment. Hobbies. I never pictured making it this far or the everyday things. I thought I would die before I was 25, or that if I somehow made it out everything would magically work out perfect and I would be happy all the time. I actually could never have visualized the mundane life I have now, full of good and bad things. My worldview is shaped by extreme highs and lows, not the stability I have now, I had a very naive mindset in a way.

So, idk. I guess I'm trying to answer for myself right now what being happy means to me and what I can do to be happier in my own life. I have to figure out for myself what I even see as a good life. I never really thought about it until a couple years ago. I also have to be honest with myself and give myself space to be sad about the things I lost.

My situation might be kind of extreme, but I think part of it is just aging and is something everyone can relate to somewhat, in that we all have to figure out what we can do within our limitations and what we see as worth our time.

I don't got anything I can say to that, but I don't want to leave such an honest comment un-responded to.

So, thank you for sharing your perspective, I'm sorry about your past, and I hope you have more good days than bad.

Thanks brother, wishing good days to you too. Wanted to give an honest answer, even if it was kind of a downer, lol. I'll probably (hopefully) have something more optimistic or at least less all over the place to say in a few months or years or something, but right now I'm still just trying to get my head around what it means to me.

Thank you for sharing, anon. Seconding Wako's sentiments - I hope you have many better days ahead.

Re: On the nature of happiness

(Anonymous) - 2025-04-02 10:23 (UTC) - Expand

Happy is generally the wrong thing to aim for imo. Contentment, fulfillment, satisfaction, those are different things from happiness. It's the old cliche: having tons of money frees you from a lot of different kinds of worries, anxieties, and fears. Happiness is generally used to refer to actively feeling "more than content" though, so as your baseline lifestyle rises, you keep having to seek more to get the hit, and the chase never ends.

I'm a pretty content person, and I can't remember the last time I felt happy or excited. Not complaining about that either. It's like asking someone who is passively confident, when's the last time you liked yourself? They probably won't remember, because it's all the time - why wouldn't they like themselves? - and you'd need some dramatic event of self-satisfaction to even register on the meter.

i dont like tits tho

I think it's all personal. People are different, they're going to want different things. For me, having goals is important but those goals are mostly centered around taking care of my partner and our small-but-growing homestead. Like, I do not care about financial success or anything like that (an easy thing to say since we already own our home).

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