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[ SECRET POST #6665 ]

⌈ Secret Post #6665 ⌋

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Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 43 secrets from Secret Submission Post #952.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Anyone you want to thank or respond to?

Anything still bugging you?

New thoughts on old secrets?

Miscellaneous personal updates?

I made the first secret in this post (about Anya Taylor-Joy: https://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/2299975.html#cutid1

I'd been a fan since The VVitch, and I literally watched everything she was in because she was so new there wasn't much. I love going back and rereading the few comments because pretty much no one knew her and just discussed how she looked.

The Queen's Gambit dropped literally 3 days later. Shit can change fast!

To the anon that told us their shower routine and did conditioner, then shampoo, thank you. My hair has gone from brittle to lush. I really appreciate your comments.

This had to have been eight or nine years ago. I doubt anyone who goes there will remember this. But you never know.

I was in a bad place because one of my parents was dying, and there were things I didn't want to say on LJ. Because I'd heard of FFA, I posted there, despite being unfamiliar with the rules. Which was my first mistake.

Apparently, there were two types of "general conversation" threads, one for lighter conversation and one for darker rants, like mine. A few people told me that it was the wrong place, and to post elsewhere. I felt they were being rude about it, freaked out, and it turned into a whole thing.

Given that this is the internet and people can be brutal, there's a chance people were mean, but with my headspace it's possible I took polite corrections as personal attacks. For which I am sorry. Either way, I shouldn't have used a random anon community for free therapy, nor should I have posted to a community without knowing the rules.

I fucked up the first time I posted there too. Fortunately, they’ll never know it was me.

I'm wondering if that anon who, a few weeks back, said they were going to start the One Piece live action ever did and how they liked it.

I found a comment I made on a post a few months ago where I accused someone of mansplaining. At the time, I didn't see the reply that said "I'm a woman." I wish I had seen it then, so I could have told the commenter that I was aware that was likely the case because most people on FS are women, but mansplaining is called that because men are especially prone to doing it, not because you have to be a man in order to do it. Woman or not, what the anon did was still mansplaining.

Thanks for mansplaining that to us.

That's factually wrong though. If the person doing it isn't a man, it's not mansplaining. And the fact that you felt the need to double down with this dumb comment is kinda embarassing.

Mansplaining = a man is being condescending

You could have just said the person you were talking to was being condescending. Gendering it deviates from the issue at hand and it implies only men can be condescending.

Words and context matter.

No, it wasn't.

Something tells me that what actually happened is that someone corrected you, and it made you feel insecure, so you tried to shut them down by accusing them of "mansplaining."

No, you do have to be a man to be mansplaining. Sorry.

About a year ago, I asked for advice on washing my asshole and got some great advice. I've washed my asshole every time I've showered since and will continue to do so for the rest of my life. Thanks to everyone who responded. ♥️

Congrats on your clean ass nonny!

Wait wait wait. Is cleaning your ass something that requires strategy? I've always thought you just...soap it up gently?

Is this a "people who do butt stuff" thing? Because if someone was going to be tossing my salad then I can see doing a bit more than some gentle soaping of the rosebud, but as it is, I feel like a bit of gentle soaping is sufficient? Isn't it??

I have no old business but just wanted to say thank you for doing this. I enjoy reading it AND I think I’m highly likely to have something to contribute one of these days.

If the person worrying about their RP partner and whether they can send them things outside of birthdays/holidays...

My experience, as the friend-on-a-fixed-income-living-paycheck-to-paycheck... I would personally be grateful and emotional and all, but I can see how some people might feel awkward or indebted in some way. And it might be difficult to reach out and *ask* if they could use any extra help, if they don't have a ko-fi up or anything like that. But, there are some specific things that are easier to send-- if you're both coffee drinkers, you could send a package of nice coffee their way, with a note about how since you can't get together for coffee geographically, you figured this was the next best way to share the kind you found you enjoy. It's not enough of a staple to feel like you're buying their groceries, not too expensive a treat to be for no reason, but it IS the kind of thing that, at the end of the month, is the first thing that might get put back on the shelf.

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