[ SECRET POST #6749 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6749 ⌋

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[thewakokid]

It's true. But there are ways to break it. Find the weak link in the spiral and try and force a gap in there by slowly altering your perception about it.

Depression leads to being withdrawn. - You can't easily force yourself to not be depressed. You CAN force yourself to not being withdrawn, but I didn't find that panned out.

Being withdrawn leads to not having friends. - Simple cause and effect. You can TRY and wiggle through it, but I don't see much room, other than online friendships.

Not having friends leads to depression. - This one was my own personal gap. Not having friends leads to depression. Does it HAVE to? Can you accept that right now you've a small circle, can you be at peace with it, Maybe just settle for not becoming WORSE for the time being? After all there's no reason why it needs to spiral, your friendship status isn't getting worse, You started with none, and you're still on none. You want some, but friends are not antidepressants, there is nothing in this equation that's getting worse except your own feeling about the situation. The situation isn't changing. You are. You can choose how to feel about it. You can fight it just a bit, just enough to stop it spiralling down. Just to an equlibrium at first.

If you want something to hope for, there IS a path forward to better mental health to growth, to opening up, to making friends. I can personally vouch for this. But that's the long view you don't need to fixate on the long view, you need to focus on the immediate spiral, on slowing the descent. On realising that having friends wont fix you, and not having friends doesn't mean you're unfixable or getting worse or beyond help. Accept the situation as it stands right now, and reframe your priorities.

That's about as much help as my untrained ass can offer, but there are people who can offer more specifics, tools, techniques, ways to reframe and refocus.