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Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

Have any of you ever had a friend or family member who has a mental illness and gets into a lot of online drama? Someone close to me says very, very odd things on social media when having a manic episode, does unusual risky things, lashes out in anger at random, and has been posted as a subject of gossip/lolcow discussions due to their behavior. People find their behavior funny and egg them on, and they always fall for it. They respond to drama with drama. I've accepted that I can not control them or their followers, but I still get upset seeing it happen. It hurts to see someone I care about breaking down so publicly.

Does anyone have advice on disengaging from this type of thing and letting go? I've talked to them about it and done all I can to support this person, the situation is not changing unfortunately. How do I look away?

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

I mute them and just ignore anything from them that gets posted in other places. I know from experience that I can’t help them but trying can hurt me.

I’m sorry this is happening. I hope your loved one gets the help they need and can be happy and healthy someday.

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you, I think that's what I have to do. It can be hard to stop scrolling this stuff even though rationally I know me reading it isn't doing anything. Thank you for the kind words as well, I have really complicated feelings towards the person myself but I do truly care a lot about them and hope that things get better for them.

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

Same anon

Also sorry to hear that you can relate, I hope things improve for your loved one as well

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

Depends. What mental illness?

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

Yep. It didn't settle down until their condition settles down (which can take a long time.) In the case of my family member, this was actually less harmful than when they were into online gambling, so it didn't feel quite as bad? Block and unfollow everywhere, there was no way to persuade my family member to get offline when they were in manic mode.

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

That all makes sense. Thank you for your reply, I'm sorry for the situation you and your family member were dealing with (hopefully things are calmer now) but hearing other people are in a similar boat is really helpful because of how overwhelming it's been for me lately. It helps just remembering I'm not the only person who's had to navigate this.

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

Is it Teal Swan?

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

Tbh I’m that person half because people annoy me a lot and that includes online people (shutup keyboard warrior) half because I don’t actually care what some stranger on the big bad web has to say about me or my behavior based on a few posts. I miss when this was the general attitude haha just go offline the internet isn’t real etc. When someone cares too much about what’s being said and done on the internet I know they haven’t lived enough and I laugh at them

Also really wish people would wake up, the internet has always allowed people to express themselves in extreme ways that they wouldn’t IRL and I see it as a form of artistic expression (no, that actor who portrays a murderer has never actually murdered anyone) so I say take EVERYTHING with a grain of salt since long ago but somewhere around 2010 it seems like everything went to shit with teens revealing their names and ages and sexualities publicly because the algorithm outed them anyways and then around 2020 it got even worse, with pandemic going full panopticon on us and all this damn AI shit, so many spaces online are taken over by political agendas and bots and generated crap we may as well treat everything online as a conspiracy so in short I will keep up my unhinged usage of the web that 1) is fun to me 2) keeps the algorithm confused 3) doesn’t matter to my real job 4) throws off the stalkers whose only use to society is sucking (wtf is lolcow grow past 12 AH)

Highly recommend this to everyone else, btw, because I am tired of what the internet is doing to us

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks for your perspective. Unfortunately my loved one isn't "just having fun being unhinged," they get really upset by the harassment and fighting, and describe their own internet use as destructive/compulsive. The cycle they go through with this stuff sucks as much for them as for us, it's sad to see them unable to stop it.

Their online behavior has also caused serious IRL problems for them and their family more than once, hopefully not the case for you. Believe me if they were just "cringey" (who cares) and had some no-life internet stalkers but otherwise things were good I would not be complaining.

Re: Oddly specific advice question/vent

[(Anonymous)]

idk what lolcow is either, i don't care, and may anyone who's stalking people and calling them lolcows on the internet just fade away into oblivion and then drop dead painfully.