[ SECRET POST #6869 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6869 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Venting

[(Anonymous)]

At some point, I think it's too much of a stretch to spin that positively, it's just narcissism

I exited out of a friendship because of exactly the whole "let me give you unaskedfor advice on a topic in which I know little about and I don't know nor much less care how much you actually know about it so my advice is actually useless and demeaning because I made this topic about me even though this topic is something you brought up because it actually relates to you buuuuuuuut I love making everything about myself so here I go, rambling on and on about whatever on my mind and obviously it's about me!" situations I kept finding us in.

I reminded myself that people are allowed to be messy, but I don't need to give so much of myself to others.

Re: Venting

[(Anonymous)]

I think that's a fair attitude to have. It's not quite so easy for me to detach from my own father, but I've run out of patience with the endless stream of self-centered, useless advice no matter how well intentioned it might be. I try not to answer with an angry tone, just a sort of flat, "Dad, you've never been to [that city/that country], I'm not sure you fully understand what's involved." or "Yes, I understand that wearing comfortable shoes is a good idea because I've done a lot of travelling."

It's just sad to me sometimes because I do think there's a part of him that wants to help and be admired and respected for his wisdom, but he refuses to stick to subjects he's actually knowledgeable about. A reasonable person would quit while they're ahead, but the narcissism comes into play when he still wants to guess or make up things without considering that maybe giving bad advice to people has the potential to backfire on the person he's trying to "help". He's prioritizing desire to feel wise and helpful over someone else's needs and well being.