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⌈ Secret Post #6872 ⌋

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Re: Do you get along with your parents?

[(Anonymous)]

I regularly go on vacations with my mom. It wasn't until I met my now-wife that I realized how good I had it growing up. My mom's philosophy was that she was the one who wanted a kid and I hadn't asked to be here, so it was her responsibility to prepare me to live my life, not to make me into a mini-her. She emphasized education and curiosity and never shamed me for asking any question under the sun.

Looking back on it, I'm pretty sure I made my southern christian mother rethink a lot of things when I told her in high school I would probably be bringing home a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend because she was uncharacteristically quiet for almost a month after and then went back to her usual self. She never made me not being who or what she expected my problem. Best mom ever.

(My wife, on the other hand, has a dad who, among other things, expected her to major in what he wanted at the school he wanted or he wouldn't pay for anything. She ended up paying her own way through and hasn't talked to him in about a decade.)

Re: Do you get along with your parents?

[(Anonymous)]

Your mom sounds rather exceptional. Mine was somewhere in between... she didn't insist on dictating my major, but she certainly tried to control many of my other life choices, including how I dressed, how I wore my hair, what I ate and how much of it I ate, what hobbies I pursued, what books I read, etc. Nothing was ever quite right or good enough. She would've been a lot happier if I'd been a miniature version of her in all ways, including appearance.

Re: Do you get along with your parents?

[(Anonymous)]

I don't understand parents who do that. Trying to exert that much control over another person just sounds boring and tiring. They need a hobby.

Re: Do you get along with your parents?

[(Anonymous)]

As I got older, I realized that she had a very rigid way of seeing the world, and a great deal of poorly managed anxiety. Seeing her children do the "wrong" thing (because only her way was the correct way) made her panic because she was certain it would lead to disaster, and she often said this out loud like it wasn't nuts to imply that washing dishes wrongly could doom your whole life. So all her attempts to control me were really fierce because she believed it was for my own good. It was pretty screwed up, and she has never accepted the fact that I'm a different person, with different needs and different ways of doing things.

Re: Do you get along with your parents?

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, my mother has gone through life like she expects to get a pat on the head and an "atta girl!" if she "follows the rules". She is so damn rigid about trying to be "right and proper" that all it has led her is this life of deprivation and two kids who want nothing to do with her because she couldn't unbend from 1950s childraising beliefs in the 1980s and 1990s, and never mind all the ways the world keeps people who follow all the rules poor...It has only harmed her, but she is still the same, dirt poor, judgemental ass as a pensioner as she was as younger woman.