[ SECRET POST #6896 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6896 ⌋

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Re: Relationship advice?

[(Anonymous)]

When someone treats you badly knowing full well they're mooching off you AND not treating you with respect and love, your obligation to support them financially is absolutely NOTHING, anon. You're in an abusive relationship. He is taking advantage of your inertia and the challenge it'll be to leave him, and he's hoping that he'll be able to keep taking advantage of you while treating you like shit because he enjoys doing that. It feels nice to him, otherwise he wouldn't do it.

The good news is that if you're able to support yourself without his help, that's a big advantage. The important question to ask yourself is: do you think he will hurt you when you break up with him? Don't say no too quick. Someone who calls you names and subjects you to verbal abuse is already a big red flag. If he's controlling, jealous, or has made hints about violence or physically hurting you, then you must assume you're at risk for physical assault. That's important to consider because it changes the nature of your exit plan. And you NEED an exit plan. You can get out. I won't lie to you, it might not be easy. But you CAN get out.

First, lock down your banking and log ins for social media so he doesn't know. Make sure your important documents and meaningful possessions are safe - storage room or hide with a friend. Put together and hide a bug out bag. Make sure he has NO access to your money, either in the form of cash or accounts. If you have friends who live nearby, ask for their help. If you're renting, consider the end of your lease. Talk to your landlord and explain that you need to end it, get him off the lease, whatever. It might be a good idea to find a new place to live and move.

When you leave, DO NOT TELL HIM IN ADVANCE. Wait until he's out of the house, get your friends to lightning-pack as much of your shit as possible and get the hell out before he knows what's going on. Break up via text, you don't owe him any closure or sit-downs or "one more talk" or anything. Remember: if he was a decent person, you wouldn't have to do this at all.

Block him everywhere. You deserve to be free.

Re: Relationship advice?

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Precaution: don't do this if your partner is someone who notices small details and is controlling

If it's possible to leave, a former coworker told me she slowly and carefully packed up things, and put them in a storage rental for a few months before moving out. That way, her final packup on the day she moved out, there were less things to have to grab.

She was in a marriage she wanted out of. She had to quietly plan an exit, took her a couple months.

Pack up things that are already out of sight, such as out of season clothing, photo books or hobby items, kitchen/home accessories that aren't often used or won't be noticed to have gone missing.
If possible, you can say that you are "giving old items away to donations". Pack them up in boxes and label them as "donations" but when you leave, you can put them away into a storage unit.